Pregnant in sister's wedding?

Question

Just wanted some unbiased opinions....

My husband and I want to have a baby. We tried in May and got pregnant, but lost it soon after (chemical preg). The baby would have been due in February. I was not ready to try again until now, but if we try now, the baby will be due in May and my sister is getting married in early May.

I am the maid of honor which requires a lot of planning and obviously want to ensure I make the wedding, so we are not trying now.

How many months do you think I can be any enjoy myself at wedding so I know when to start trying. And do you think I would be stealing her thunder at all? I definately do not want to do that.

We are just nervous now that more MC could occur and want to try asap.

Sorry so long, thanks!!!

Answer 1

I can understand your reasoning for this question, but with your history you should try and have the child at the best time for you.  YOur sister is YOUR sister and should be happy for you, and if that means that someone has to help with the things you , as the maid of honor has to do. then so be it.    

I am not trying to be negative here, but take care of you first here. Your happiness is important and you need to think about that and the fact that you are at risk to miscarry again, so when the time is right for you take advantage and of that time.  

I am sure you will make a lovely pregnant maid of honor.

Answer 2

Talk to her about it!!! But if you don't want to show, wait till febuarary or March. January and the very earliest. If you wait till Feb. you probably won't be showing in the wedding.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

Sorry for your loss. Well thats up to you and just because sis is getting married doesn't mean you should hold of your plans. I have had two miscarriages. I had a chemical pregnancy back in september, got pregnant in october and carried till sixteen weeks and then lost it again at 16wks, and then I got pregnant again in may and Im 15wks and going good so far. The statitics say that you have an 85% chance of having a succeful pregnancy after a miscarriage, but I understand how you feel. Im still scared everytime I go to the doctor. But I would say if you want to feel comfortable in sis's wedding, I would think that about 6-8 months along would be k. You'd still be showing, but you wouldn't be risking the chance of going into labor during her wedding to.. So, its up to you.  

Answer 4

why don't you just try to get pregnant, and not worry about your sister's wedding?  i fail to see the logic of putting off TTC just so you can make your sister happy.  look at it this way:  you might not get pregnant right away, and if you wait, it might take longer.  do what YOU and your husband want to do, and enjoy your sister's wedding.  if you DO get pregnant, then you can deal with the dress thing when you come to it.  good luck hon.

Answer 5

To me, I believe that you should be as selfish as you want when wanting a baby. There is no guarantee that you'll be able to conceive the time you want to, and holding it off may make it more stressful. Since you're ready now, I don't see anything wrong in wanting to try as soon as you can.

Ultimately, the decision is in your hands. If you feel that the stress of helping in the wedding would be detrimental to you, then don't try yet. Also, one can never know if you're going to have those "difficult" pregnancies with extreme morning sickness etc. So if you want to be "at your best" for your sister, then the best thing is not to try until after the wedding.

If you feel that you want to try now and hope for the best, then go ahead. I'm sure your sister would understand.

Answer 6

My matron of honor was six months pregnant.  She was able to perform all of the matron of honor duties. She did not steal my thunder at all!!

The only concern was ordering a dress for her that would fit. We went with a plus size dress and the seamstress was able to alter it to fit perfectly.

Answer 7

you could be a pregnant bridesmaid, but you should start trying in december

Answer 8

who knows how many months it will take you to get pregnant it is up to you but i don't see what the big deal would be. so you would be prego for the wedding totally not a big deal you can always talk to your sister and see what she thinks about it

Answer 9

Go ahead and try, but be prepared if you don't get it on first try.

A pregnant bridesmaid isn't really a big deal, but you will be

EXHAUSTED in the 9th month.

I would say try to be only 8 months or less pregnant so that you can feel better. Also remember some babies like to come a few weeks early.