Pregnant with a husband who parties

Question

A few months after I told my husband we were pregnant, he started going out once a week. We've been together for 3 years and never has he gone out so much with his friends. I've gotten into arguments with him..I've cried about it and all he tells me is that he's dealing with the changes that'll soon occur. Is he preparing himself for a child or is it something else? Or am i just emotional and want to be attached to his hip? Please help.

Answer 1

NOT EXCEPTABLE he should be supportive and be home with you not partying.  he should at least ask you to go with him.  

Answer 2

hmmm this is a hard one mabye he is just going out before the baby comes...because he knows he wont be able to when he has a baby

Answer 3

He sounds like he'll be a great father. (Sarcasm.)

My guess is that he's trying to party as much as he can before he's "tied down" by a child. I don't really know what to tell you to keep him from going out, but he really should stay and support you, and you should tell him that.

Answer 4

Honest guy answer here:  Sounds like he really doesn't want to be a father.  He probably feels trapped.  Most guys would be VERY happy to just have s*x and never have kids, its just not something we dream about like women do.  I'm not saying he doesn't care about you, I'm just trying to give you a look into how men think.

Best of luck to you and your family.

Answer 5

I am going through the same problem. I am 35 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. When he found out we were going to be parents back in January he started going out more often. He said it was because he wouldn't be able to do it once our son was born. It does put emotional stress on us because we want attention and affection and they really aren't willing to give it. Ask him to spend more time with you. Cry in front of him if that's what it takes. Also make him go to the doctors with you. Once my boyfriend saw our baby with our ultrasound appointment he started paying more attention to me. So hopefully things turn up good for you. =)

Answer 6

His attitude sucks. This is not the way you prepare for the birth of your child. Clearly, he cannot deal with the prospect of being a parent. He should grow up and accept his responsibilities like other men.

Answer 7

Your husband like most men have a crazy way of expressing how they feel. He is probably nervous and doesn't know what to expect. This is your first child correct? So this is a new experience for him. He did tell you that this is how he is dealing with the upcoming changes. Just give him a little bit of room and he will eventually come around. Right now he is probably realizing that in a few months he will now be responsible for someone else's life and that can be very scary. You are also probably emotional as well but that comes with pregnancy. For now try your best not to worry and everything will work itself out.