Pregnant women and their partners: was this appropriate?

Question

I was at WalMart last week with my girlfriend, who is 32 weeks pregnant. There was a black couple in front of us in line with a baby. Long story short, they got all offended because we were laughing (not at them). They waited until we got into the parking lot and started a fight. They were very aggressive and were obviously spoiling for a fight. My gf and I tried to defuse it, but then they started namecalling (the male called my gf a fat as*ed *****......which is not true, she's pregnant). They then started coming towards us and trying to make it a physical fight (again, with their baby in the cart and my gf very pregnant). As we were driving away, my gf referred to them as n*ggers. They looked so offended. I can't understand why; they were willing to dish out personal insults. Was it wrong to refer to them as n*ggers? Or was it par for the course since they started with the namecalling?

Answer 1

I understand your side of the story, but you are both about to become parents. Would she have screamed that out the window with a child in the car? There have been many times I have bit my tongue in public (and at family gathering LOL) to set an example to my kids. It is done and over with I would not worry about it. But anytime you sink to someones level like that, they have won.

I can tell you my husband would have gone crazy on someone who called me that, so I think you did show great restraint. But I would NEVER call someone that, they are jerks, a*****e, whatever but it did not need to come down to a racial slur period!

The best thing you can do as a parent is lead by example to your child. Mine are 7 and 9 and I try very hard to set an example of the kind of person I want them to become.

Answer 2

It was wrong - two wrongs never make a right, and shouting abuse at someone as you drive off is cowardly and despicable. Why lower yourself to their level?

Answer 3

well did they call her a cracker? hmmm....so the real person comes out.

Answer 4

two wrongs don't make a right...............even if they were "ignorant"

Answer 5

The reason we have racism in this world is because people are afraid of it. I treat no one any different at all regardless of age, s*x, race, or religion. I don't dance around sensitive situations, as that just draws more attention to the very differences the majority of people are afraid to notice. An early comment in this in my opinion is correct, if they can call white people 'white trash', etc they should expect to take the equivalent right back at them.

Answer 6

well good for her it bugs me that people can get called white trash but no one bothers but the moment we called a mixed race person there is a big war about it i would of stuck up for myself to i walked out the toilets last week on a service station and a bloke from behind said look at that fatty i am pregnant and i shouted i am pregnant you ugly so so so at least i can get slim you can't change your looks the cheeky devil good on her and black people call each other ni**ers all the time.

Answer 7

they were very wrong, ghetto, and inappropriate, dumb as sh*t for actin out like they did

but the words "n*gger" is offensive because what i feel when someone calls another that, its a term referring back to slavery when white people were inferior to black people, and owned them, black people weren't even good enough to be considered a human beinguntil they were only gud enuff to be three-fifthfs of a person with the three-fifths compromise which is what they were worth when it came time to do know the population to determine house of reps and etc, (BUT another story)

so when a white person calls a black persom a "n*gger* it only makes us feel like they think they're superior, and h**l no it won't be tolerated because too many black ppl have died and worked nd struggled for equality and the fact someone has the nerve to knock me down on a societal scale to below nothing, it infuriates us

but ur wife, could not have meant it trying to call them a slave or inferior, but no matter how she said it, it was thrown to be hurtful and she knew how it makes black ppl feel, because it sure as h**l wasn't in a friendly manner as blac ppl do with each like "what up n*igga" or "you my n*gga*"

Edit: to ppl sayn its not rite tht black ppl thro the race card when u retaliate... its not when u retaliate, its when u say racist sh*t when u retaliate, like callin ppl ********, and calln them stereotypical names like nothn but gangbangers, hood rats, and hoes... if u calld them fat, ugly, dumb, stupid, then its nothn but a argument in tht case

and another sad thing is not all black ppl feel dis way, to some blck folk, they feel its compensation for what white ppl have put their ancestors thru, and its ok for them to call white ppl "white ***" and "crackers" but white ppl can call black ppl racist too, but i so far have neva heard it

edit to poster- and i understand u totally, and ur wife should not take any offense to what they say because it was nothn but ignorance, im ashamd ma d**n self cuz it only gives ppl more of a reason to dislike black ppl

Answer 8

I hate to Say this,but if they can call themselves that word,it is OK  for anyone to use it.I think the race card has been played way too many times and the only "true "racists that are left are black.I have seen this kind of thing so many times,some black people act like all whites owe them something,well,I for one don't owe them anything! I am so sorry your wife was treated this way by someone who obviously was looking to start trouble.I believe you should call the Wal-mart and complain as well.No one has a right to attack you. Take care

Answer 9

They aren't ******* because they're black, they're ******* because they're ignorant. I have called more white people a ****** than black people. I would have run them over in the parking lot but hey, it's just me.