Premarital Affair of wife?

Question

My spouse had premarital sexual relationship with a boy. This has revealed to me immediate after my engagement and confrimed during first s*x with her. Whenever I asked about this indirectly, she gets angry and question me back about trust. Presently she does not have any relationship with him. I have one baby, considering child's future I can’t divorce her, but I am not very comfortable with her by knowing this fact. She does not have good behaviors with me & my family members and my sexual life does exist at all. What should I do?

Answer 1

hi Mr troubled hubby :)

ur case is the same as mine except that i happen to be the wife who had a premarital affair and i had come clean on it prior to even getting engaged to my future hubby. however, with the same honesty i also maintained a scrupulously clean post-marital life with no contact whatsoever with my ex. however, my SOB of a hubby keeps on continuosly digging my past and keeps on hitting on it whenever we fight for whatsoever reason. The result ... we actually have no real marriage coz the basic pillars of trust, respect, understanding, care and love have vanished into thin air. we are just sticking together for our children. however, the very atmosphere in our house is poisoned. he leaves no stone unturned to humiliate, hit or abuse me even in front of my children, in-laws and servants. i kno the day is not far behind when we will go on our separate ways ... but the question is ... what does it matter most .... my past life before i got married or my life and conduct post marriage? Moreover, does my honesty regards my past hold no worth? i cud have easily hidden it and maintained peace ... but the very fact that i had come clean on it before even getting married speaks volumes. it depends on my hubby (in my case) and yourself (in your case) as to what you guys value more ... some dead skeletons of the past or a loyal, loving wife and mother of your children ? the choice is yours and so will be the consequences.