Premature ejaculator and trouble getting it up?

Question

Heya. I have a new lover just this last week and am in a situation I haven't been in before.

The first time we had s*x it was fine, bar being over a bit quickly. He was apologetic, I tried to put him at ease. A rest, a few kisses and cuddles later we tried again, but to, um, no avail... he couldn't get it up. Eventually we got there.

The next time we met, he just had trouble getting it up for more than a minute.

At risk of sounding like a cocky idiot, I know he's "liked" me for a couple of years and I'm sure "getting there" could be quite stressful in the circumstances. He's a sweet guy and I'm not about to let him go, when it's happened I've just given him a hug and told him we'll try again later, not to stress. Just wondering if anyone has advice on techniques to get him going? We've tried manual and oral stimulation with various rates of success.

I'll take a bottle of wine to have with dinner next time, might that help?

Answer 1

He's putting too much pressure on the situation...teach him how to please you orally, so that you can get off, and he feels better, and doesnt put so much importance on his penile performance

Answer 2

Well his refractory time(time to get it up again) may have an influence. He is probably really nervous about messing up and not satisfying you. Stress can lead to ED(erectile dysfunction).But continue doing what you are doing. It is good to be supportive of him and encourage him. If he feels relaxed and is not nervous than he should last longer. He should learn about "kegel exercises" and strengthening his pelvic muscles. His breathing will also influence it. He needs to learn proper breathing during s*x to maintain stamina. Just continue working with him and researching online and it should turn out fine.