Prenuptial agreement an offense? ?

Question

oK SO I 've watched 2and a half men......This guy Alans situation is pretty critical.....The poor guy works his *** off and pays every penny as alimony to his wife who jolly-well just sits there spends it.....So If i was in his shoes I wouldn't have minded paying for my kid.......as for my wife....If she divorced me why the heck should i provide for her? She better get a job and make a living....Having observed this phenomenon I seriously want to sign a prenup or whatever to avoid the situation in question here.......I'm curious whether my prospective wife(whom I don't know yet) would find this offensive......and when I found the right girl, would it be worth the risk proposing a prenup and risking the relationship if women find it offensive? This is a minor passing train of thought.....if you would be so kind enough to express your opinions?

Answer 1

I would wait to find the female first!!  Some women would find it offensive.  What if she makes more then you?  If she does then I guess you really wont have to worry about her taking everything.  Do you really feel that if you married that you would get divorced?  I personally couldn't sign a prenuptial agreement, it would make me feel as if he didn't trust me.

Answer 2

I'm with you on this one.  I've known too many people get wiped out financially by grasping ex-wives.  It's not worth the risk.  I'm a divorced mother of two by the way - I haven't asked my ex for a single penny, nor would I.  I'm quite capable of looking after myself and my kids.  If I was to remarry, I'd certainly insist on a prenup though - you can't be too careful.

Edit:  It'd be interesting to see what Misty would do if her rosy little world fell apart.  No doubt she'd be after as much as she could get - especially if there was another woman involved.  h**l hath no fury ... as they say.

Answer 3

It would totally depend on the person and what it is you would be trying to protect. Perhaps her net worth &/or income might be the greater and she might want you to sign off, how would you feel about that? i think offense is taken by asking for a pre nup because it seems like there is an expectation that the marraige isn't forever and when you decide it's over  you want to cover your ***. Not a great way to go into a commitment that is meant to be til death do you part!!

Answer 4

Ok, Sam, let us just say, that if I went on a date with you, and you brought that up, I would tell you that I would not want to see you anymore.

How can you base your life on a movie??

I do not agree in pre-nups, and that is just me, for everyone else, fine.

I really think it is a turn off when a man expects a woman to do this and to do that, it should be a mutual agreement, not just one person in the relationship or marriage making the decisions.

It is not like that, everything in marriage and in relationships are about trust, love, and communication and working together, as partners, as one, not the way you want it.

Answer 5

Look at it this way,It would be better for her to be offended without all your stuff than you be offended after the judge tell you to give her all your stuff....the choice is yours.

Answer 6

i find it a bit offensive.. i mean arent we supposed to be married till death do us part.

Answer 7

I never understood alimony.  It seems old fashion.  Women can work, we are not children.  I don't see why we are being treated a such.

Answer 8

I will have a Pre nup for my next marriage. why ? to protect what I have built up by myself for my children. basically what I have before the new marriage will be safe for my children to have if something were to happen to myself. anything wealth that is acquired after the marriage should be divided equally if the marriage should not work out. I am doing this to protect my children from a previous marriage. i think that if the pre nup is done in the right way and explained as to why with clarity, than no man or woman should object to one unless they are going into the marriage with the idea that they can prosper do to a failed marriage. also a pre nup should not be a tool to gage how much somebody loves someone or trust someone

Answer 9

I have prenup to protect my business and some stocks/bonds, all of which I had aquired before I got married and have willed to my son.

My son will get these things that I worked so hard for.

Answer 10

I only agree in prenups on one condition both parties should work and the one who makes the most money should be the one who pays the other alimony.  Woman are not delicate little flowers, we are capable of taking care of ourselves, nothing in life is guaranteed,  what happens if you sign a prenup and your spouse passes on?  then what do you do wait until you become of retirement age to collect benefits?  Come on women get a life,  learn to take care of yourselves you are not children who are totally dependent on someone else.  If you are going to refuse to sign a prenup then he should refuse to marry you and your lazy butt!

Answer 11

Get a prenup.  Trust me. Just do it.  It has nothing to do with trust.  It has to do with money and if she's not looking to take yours, what's the problem in signing it?