Prep child behaving badly?

Question

My son tends to hang around "Naughty boys" one in particular who talks about killing other children (a 6 year old). My son is attracted to this child. I tell him not to play with this child, as when he does he gets in trouble himself. This child has bitten my son (and left a scar) and in turn my son is starting to bite other children for which he is has been punshished.A few mothers are very concerned about this child's behaviour, but the teachers have brushed it off by saying they feel sorry for him as he is only a 5 year old child. I have told my child not to play with boy and to play with his other friends and whose mothers are supportive of my son playing with their children. I ask him every day if he has played with this boy and his answer is always "No". I even reword the the question like "who did you play with today". I tell him that I will not get angry if he played with this boy. I later find out that he has. I have spoke to him about it, even punshied him - what now??

Answer 1

Been there, seen it done it.

There was a 4 year old boy who bullied all the kids, I complained when he did it to mine.

I complained when he pushed my kid from behind into a wire fence

I complained when he turned 5 and threw my kids hat over a wall and broke his sunglasses

I complained when he broke my kids sunglasses again.

I complained when he kicked my child

I complained when he turned 6 and gave my kid a black eye

I complained to the head each time over 3 years (no-one else did - 5 parents  took their kids to a different school to avoid a confronattion with the head)

We were told he had problems at home and that they were not allowed to tell us what they were but we should feel sorry for him.

We were told that the school was handling it .

We were told he had 'Attention Disorder'

We were told that our children 'gave as good as they got'

We photographed each bruise, each black eye and each broken item and kept notes.

Then my kid started not smiling and not wanting to go to school.

If he hit back he said he would always get told off and the boy always attacked him from behind.

So I wrote an email to the head of the LEA.

I told her that if they really wanted to help the kid they should sort out his parents - and that instead of one child having a S****y school life - now at least 6 kids were!

She kindly forwarded my email to..............the head of the school!!!!!!!!

The head of the school was angry that we had gone over her head.

Then..........a breakthrough........the LEA sent someone to ask the Head questions about the boy.............then the boy mysteriously moved out of the school.....and the school gave us an apology...

Now my other kid is 3 and there is a bully at the school -

I complained.........they followed it up with a full investigation.

The moral of this tale? The teachers will lie for a quiet life, the head will be defensive if you complain....and it is only YOU that will do anything. So - get a group of parents together and hopefully they will turn up and not be chicken-shite like my lot - and hold a meeting with the head . Demand that something is done and demand a follow-up meeting.

Your kids are there to learn and not be bullied!

Answer 2

Have a chat to the boys parents. There could be a very valid reason as to why he's acting out.

As for the telling your son to stay away. Unfortunately I doubt it will work. Most 5y/o wont understand why exactly they have to stay away.

Though I'd keep on him if he is telling lies. That's something you can fix.

Answer 3

You could always invite another child over and then you tell him to play with him and you never know he could just like him and be friends and forget about the other boy and want to play with someone else.

Answer 4

you should write a complaint to the school board and to the principal to the teacher int hat year and to the police with your concerns and if nothing is still not done take your concerns to the papers and to the tv news and then somethink will be done.dont give up as this bad child is probably dealing with some sort of abuse somewhere and this is why he is like that at school and he shouldnt be allowed to get away with it as he will be a danger to others as he gets older and it needs to be dealt with today. so get all the concerned parents to sign your letters and see what happens.oh and if you know what the childs name is and last name you could call and write to child services

Answer 5

send the naughty boy to iraq