Pressure by parents!?

Question

What should i do if my mom is putting alot of pressure on me to ice skate more hours of the day and says that she believes in me but then turns around and says that im not going to succeed !!

what should i do?

Answer 1

I know exactly what you mean. Many have been in this situation. First, evaluate the reasons that you are ice skating. If it is for any reason other than pure enjoyment, perhaps you should consider trying a different sport. If you are having fun, skate the way you want to, and don't let any one else tell you what to do, not even your mom. However, because your mom is the one paying for all of the lessons, then you need to skate in a way that is not wasteful. Otherwise, try to have fun, and if you have to stand up to your mom, don't be disrespectful, but calmly explain to her the you will skate the way you want to or you will not skate at all.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You should do what makes you happy. If you love skating and want to work hard do it. If it's too much for you or you just aren't into it find something else you like to do. I skated for 30 years and one day (actually it was over the course of a season) I decided I'd had enough. I walked away and haven't looked back. I have fond memories and a box of medals. But, I've moved onto other things.

Answer 3

just tell her you"I like skating a lot but i dont want to do it that much. but i think i can suceed,but only if you believe in me."

Answer 4

It's not your mom skating! I'd say your mom is a typical skating mom. Most parents push their kids to suceed. But Don't listen to her. Listen to what your heart wants. I kno it sounds cheesy but it's true! Do what u want and only wat u want. Do it b/c u love the sport. In figure skating you can't succeed unless u truly love it!

Answer 5

Well, I would say that you have to look at your goals. If your dream is to become anywhere on a world or national stage, you are definitely going to have to put in every possible minute you can. If you are planning to engage in competition at a bit of a smaller scale, or even any competition at all, you are still going to ned to put a lot of time in. However, if you are ice skating for only the sheer pleasure and want to learn only certain things at a certain rate and practice whatever you want at whatever time, then you should put in only as much time as you are willing to. The main factor is that you have to choice the path in which you follow as a skater: Do you want to be a recreational skater, or a competitve skater. You should also have a discussion with your coach and see what his/ her opinion is. If you would like more information, just ask and also tell me how much time you skate right now per week.

Answer 6

i wish i had more skating time ur lucky take advantage of the time u have but dont let anyone put u down not even ur mom shes there for love and discipline not discouragement

Answer 7

That is what my mom does. Just do what you want. If you think you will get tired of it by adding more hours, then don't. Just sit down and talk with you mom. She will understand more than you think she will. Always to remember do what makes you happy.

Answer 8

One of the biggest regrets of my life is that my parents didn't push me to put more time into things I was learning.  Looking back, I tried a lot of things but never really mastered anything.  Mastering something takes lots of time and dedication.  I skated when I was young, but my parents let me quit because I was tired of being in the car so much.  I picked it up again as an adult, and I love it more than anything else.  I loved it as a kid, but I wasn't willing to make any sacrifices.  Now I wish I'd never quit.  

If you don't love skating then don't do it.  But don't make the same mistake I did, either.

Answer 9

pretty much every mom does that.

but how ARE you going to succeed if you dont put more practice in?

if you dont enjoy skating then quit but if you do than i would skate more hours.

god, if my mom ASKED me too skate more hours i would definitely do it. and if i didnt something would be wrong

and your mother is gonna belive in you if you try hard.

Answer 10

if you dont want to work the extra hours you will not succeed because you probbably won't try as hard as if u really wanted to do better.

Answer 11

Do what makes you happy...cause if you go and ice skate for her you'll end up being bitter and regreting it. You'll turn that bitterness towards skating and you're mom. Tell her that she isnt motivating you but only discouraging you when she says you wont succeed.