Pressure to join a swim team?? What to do?

Question

My single mother has been pressuring me to do a sport for a while, and so she kept asking me. Finally i got annoyed and didn't say anything. she took that as a yes, and apparently it was swimming she suggested. So, she went out and bought me a speedo to wear. So, my question is, what should I do? should I go along? or tell her I don't want to?

Answer 1

i would join cause usually the girl life guards r pretty hot and a lot of hot girls like swimming and it would be a chance to meet girls the speedo is uncomfortable at first but u get use to it after a while

Answer 2

join! Speedoes are cool

Answer 3

Ok, I'll speak for the mom, so brace yourself.

First of all, it sounds like you mom is trying to get you to do ANYTHING. She's given you ample opportunity to pick a sport that you might enjoy and all you've done is sulk and mumble. So she took business into her own hands and got you a swimsuit.

Why would you say you don't want to do it? You haven't even given it a try. What harm is there in giving it a shot?

If it turns out you don't like the team, or the swimsuit, or the schedule, that's fine. Talk to her about those things. You can use those experiences as stepping stones to something new. But don't quit before you've even started.

Other posters might say you need to "think for yourself" and "make your own decisions." From what you've posted here, you're not thinking at all -- you're just contemplating refusing to try something just because it was your mom's idea. Then you come on here and ask strangers for advice. That's not being an independent thinker -- that's being lazy and childish.

She's trying to give you an opportunity. Don't reject it without finding out what it's about.

Answer 4

Swim teams are fun but if it is not somethig that you want to do then don't do it. Your mother should be supportive of your choice. She needs to remeber that she needs to teach you to think for your self and not to think for you. So bottom line is if you don't want to be on a swim team then tell her it is not something that you are interested in.

There are plenty of sports out there that you can try. Do something that you want to do not because your mom wants you to or because there are "hot" lifeguards.

Answer 5

I htink you should try to find a sport you really like. Tell her swimming isnt the thing for you but you will try to find something you like. I get the same thing from my parents. I snowboard all the time but you cant put that on a college app! DOn't hesitate to try stuff. I thought golf was dumb but my dad took me once and now I love hitting balls in the back yard. If you do swim team wear jammers. NOT a breif style suit. NOONE wants to see that!

Answer 6

tel her you really dont want to.

im was a swimer for a reallt long time then stop after 6th grade, my mom presured me tostart again in highscholl and i went along, but because i really didint want to do it, i had a major meltdown and it wasnt fun.  

tel your mom you dont really want to swim

you shouldnt have to do anything you dont want