Pressured into Tubal Ligation??

Question

I had a tubal ligation when I was 21 years old due to medical complications. It is a health risk if I were to give birth to a baby.

My husband and I talked about this before marriage. I already told him I am not having a baby. All of the sudden he keeps talking about all the “wonderful & fun reasons to have kids”. He wants a child that is half of each of us. He is also talking about me getting the surgery reversed.

Since he brought this subject up this past weekend....I thought about the time when I got my tubes tied. My mother was the main reason I had the surgery. She was always VERY over-protective of me.

I am allergic to general anesthesia and need to have a c-section because of my hips. I cannot have an epidural or spinal tap because of my spine.

However, my mother in law told me that they use LOCAL anesthesia for c-sections. She was an Operating Room technician at the hospital.

I can’t help but wonder if I was pressured into my mother decision when I was younger. Do anyone have any insight on this?

Answer 1

The way I take it,It could be very dangerous if you were to have a child.You would think you're husband would have considered that.Yes it is a decision that the two of you should come to an agreement on but if it would be dangerous for you to give birth there are other options in which you could have adopt or maybe have a surragate mother.Whatever you two decide I wish you the best!!!

Answer 2

I would really have a long conversation with your husband about children and make sure the 2 of you are on the same page with it.  If you talk and you both decide you want to have children, schedule an appointment with a doctor and explain to them how you had a tubal ligation when you were 21 and give them the reasons why you had it and say you have been thinking about having children and if there would be any health risks for you or the baby if you were to get it reversed and become pregnant.  Do what is best for you and your husband as well as possible future baby.  All the best.