Pro's and con's of fostering?

Question

i would like to take in foster kids, but im afraid of falling in love with them and then they will go away, anyone know if the good outweighs the bad?

Answer 1

My cousin Tammy does foster-to-adopt and she gets in many foster kids and she said it is hard to say goodbye especially if she knows they are returning home to possibly the same bad situation but she knows that she must take her energy to focus on the next child to come in.  She has adopted one little boy though and is adopting a little girl but has had I think she said over 20 foster kids so far.  She said she feels good just for the fact she is giving them a safe loving home even if it is only temporary but she does wish she could keep most of them there with her.

Answer 2

I have fostered children and it is very straining on your emotions.

Some children come to you beaten and battered if not physical then mentally or emotionally.

It is wonderful to be able to know you have touched a child's life, but when the child touches your and it physically hurts to see them go is the worse.

No matter what replies you get, only you can decide if it is worth it of not.

You have to be a strong person and loving without being too attached, because they will be leaving at some point.  Not all but many will.  

You need a strong support group and supportive family.  These children will be involved in your life in every way.  As you will be in theirs.

I think foster parents are wonderful people.  It's hard but rewarding.

I wish you luck on whatever you choose.

Answer 3

It depends on how your going to foster. Or you thinking of only short term stays? Otherwise the children usually live with you until they are 18 years old at least. My family brought in a foster child and it was really hard on our family - she had a lot of problems and made it hard for us.  Good luck with what you do! You sound very geniune