Pro life or Pro choice??

Question

So I'm for Pro life. I became pregnant by a man that wanted me to abort or give the baby up for adoption. I told him I couldn't do that because I'm not going to take the easy way out by aborting my child or giving it up for adoption when I am more than capable of taking care of it. I explained to him that I am taking responsibility as a parent to this child. So he still doesn't really want anything to do with this child. He has already told me that he wanted to sign over all his parental rights when I'm only about 4 months along. I told him that I wasn't accepting that answer because that is a HUGE decision to make. I'm 21 and he is 27. You would think that he would be a man about all of this but he isn't. I now am back with my first child's father (we were broken up at the time of my second conception) and we are planning on getting married in about 1-2 years.

So my question...everyone is saying that I need to go after him for child support. But do you think it's right that I do because he didn't want this baby in the first place? He was completly pro-choice, and made it very clear that this was my decision to hav the baby and NOT his.

Answer 1

I'm pro-choice.  100%.  That means I am for the choice to have the baby too, it's your body, it's your future.  A baby born because it was wanted and loved already has a leg up over the child who wasn't wanted but was born because the mother felt too guilty about putting both hers up, though.

I wouldn't go after him for child support.  You have every legal right to, and in the case that you cannot afford to support your child on your own, well then, it's in the child's best interest.  But if I could, I would respect his wishes not to become a father, like he should have respected your wishes to become a mother.

Answer 2

Even if you used all the birth control in the world your union with him still resulted in a pregnancy. Sometimes things happen.

If he does not want to have rights to the child then that's his right. HOWEVER there is still a child that needs to be taken care of. Child support is something that he may have to do. If he odes not want to see the baby or even know it exists then fine, ti will jsut be one more bill to pay every month.

YOU are the one who is going to be taking care of and raising this baby. Even with him paying child support he is getting off easy.

You did what you think is right and you are prepared to take responsibility for what happened.

If you don't feel he needs to pay child support that's between you and him but if you give up the rights to it now you WILL NOT get it later if you change your mind. So make sure you know what you are doing. Don't feel bad for taking a little money from him ( because it will not be too much) and it might really help you raise your baby.

Good luck

Answer 3

whether he is pro life or pro choice is irrelevant because it is his child too and he made the decision to not use protection and must now take responsibility for his actions.

Answer 4

Yes go after him for child support.  Doesnt matter if he didnt want this baby or not, he shouldve used protection.  Good for you for keeping the baby and not just taking the "easy" way out.

Answer 5

No you shouldn't go after him for child support, he didn't want the baby, its not fair to force him into paying for the baby.

But that's just my opinion, a lot of people will most likely say it is fair since he helped create it.

Answer 6

I am Pro-Life. I would have him sign away his rights and forget child support. If he signed away his rights a man who would make a good daddy could legally adopt the baby. If he wants the baby dead, I doubt he would be much of a source of support in any manner. You are making the right decision. Best of luck sweetie!

Answer 7

Well... it was HIS decision to bust a nut in you and therefore HIS responsibility to pay for HIS decision.  Don't fall for the BS that he didn't want it so it's all on you.... BS!  He is old enough to know what happens when you have s*x!

Answer 8

I am pro-choice, although personally I would never have an abortion. Just to put that out there. Anyway, it's really all up to you. You definitely have the right to, but then again if it were me, I would probably want to forget all about him&not have to deal with asking him for money every month. Just do what makes you happiest.

Answer 9

As far as I know you can still go after him for child support. The thing is, this was both your decision that you got pregnant. If he didn't want a baby, he should have not had s*x at all...That's just my opinion. I'm also 100% pro-life. I don't think it's right to terminate a pregnancy since I believe that God placed that soul inside that egg after the sperm entered it. I just believe that if you have an abortion that you are killing an innocent child who didn't have a choice to be here in the first place. Why allow this child to suffer by killing it? I'm glad you're pro-life! *HUGS* Take care!

Answer 10

you could go after him for support, a DNA test till be needed to prove paternity.  However, this is your choice.  You COULD just list your new/old boyfriend on the birth certificate and let him raise this baby as his own.  This is your choice.

Answer 11

i am all for pro life. i feel that if you spread your legs, you take what you get. i would go for child support. by all means it is his child too if he likes it or not. if he didn't want a child at all, he should have used a condom. its common sense! good for you to not let him talk you into aborting or adoption. i give you a thumbs up!

Answer 12

Every time that two people have s*x there is a chance of pregnancy. Even the pill is not 100% safe. Two adults are aware of this and should respect the consequences. He made his decision at the point he decided to have s*x with you. Your decision to have the child is nothing to do with him - it's your right, and it's a responsibility he accepted as a possiblity the moment you had s*x. So yes - go for child support, saying he didn't think you should go on and have the baby is shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted!