Problem among friends?

Question

recently my close group of about 8 friends have become somewhat divided. 3 claim that 3 of us are 'isolated' and never invite them to things. granted i feel the 3 of us are slightly closer friends to each other than to them, but there should be no reason to get all mad about it. they say we are annoying and basically the whole situation is weird now.

i really felt i was a close friend to one of the complaining 3 and feel somewhat betrayed. i thought we were good enough friends but i guess not.

this has been lingering on for about the past 2 weeks and i just wanted some advice on what i/we should do. it doesnt bother us when they do stuff together, but they mainly do it now to try to make us mad/jealous (which isnt happening).

it's just been hard hanging out with them, knowing they talk bad about you when you arent there but act like nothing is bothering them when we're together.

any advice would help. thanks

Answer 1

The more you let it worry you so much and care about their immature behaviour the more it is going to escalate into more drama. I suggest that if they are mad at you and your other friends then let them steam off a little. Two weeks seems pretty short anyways. Always think about these things in a wider perspective. Like down the road someday, do you think that they will still act this way toward you? is this something that is inherent to them and is there any possibilities they will change? And if you find yourself questioning so much about their behaviour and their loyalty to you then leave them alone for a while, sometimes people change for the better or worse. And if you still find yourself not caring about them later on then that tells you pretty much about your relationship to each other.

I used to have a big group of friends like that in middle school and found that once we reached high school, some of us hanged out with other people and I eventually made new friends and kept some old ones. Just don't start any drama.  

Answer 2

Just see if you can have everyone just sit down and talk openly about it.  It will probably be awkward, and the word "g*y" might be flung around a few times, but it's worth it to save the friendship, isn't it?  It doesn't really make sense that the other three are angry about it.

Maybe you guys SHOULD try to include them in more things.  If it's a matter of lacking accommodations, then they have no reason to be upset, just tell them so.  Even if it isn't true, and you just don't feel like hanging out with them, that's a good excuse.  It's a lie yeah, but lying keeps friendships alive sometimes... ><

Answer 3

If you guys all don't get along, then you aren't all friends.  

Answer 4

if their friendship is important to you, speak to them about what you feel is the problem and let them share their thoughts about what their issues are, friendships take work, just depends on how much you really care about continuing the friendships.