Problem communicating?

Question

i have this prob, i find that i can't converse with people around me,even with my closest friends.idon't know what is wrong with me.like i dont have any idea of what to talk.i cant even response to make conversation going.it's weird cuz at one time i find that i have a lot to say,that i feel like talking to everybody around me,and make the conversation interesting,but nowdays i cant find the right thing to say.like i need to think very hard to say something.then i ended up saying something stupid like asking somthing that i shoud have known.then i ended up looking like a stupid.i cant make the right jokes,i cant make peolpe laugh.i have this problem for ages,but not when i am with my closest friends,but now it seems..maybe becuz i dont know people's interest?i like to hang out by myself,i like watching different type of movies and different type of music than normal peolpe my age like.is this becuz i used to like and am living in my own world,

Answer 1

you should try to loosen up. and relax. social stress only worsens the more you focus on your "problem". you DO have interesting things to say, and you CAN make people laugh. when you become too aware of what you are doing, saying, and relaying you tend to clam up and blank out.

i would definitely agree that this is some form of social anxiety.

Answer 2

I have it too...Its hard to communicate with people..yeah..

but then i get used to involve in some societies, clubs, and healthy organizations, and I came to overcome it.. At first, i didnt talk that much, not knowing what to talk about..then, i made a lot of friends, get in contact with them, and i was getting more and more friendlier and talking seems to be an easy thing to me..i could talk about interesting and funny things too. People seem to like this side of me.. Im sure you can overcome this.. maybe you can start to improve it by listening to people and try to talk to them..just try...try and try..and at last you can do it..

Answer 3

It is called social anxiety.  I have it.  I have to really get to know people or I will end up shying away from them.  I want even acknowledge them.

I am getting better at pretending though but it is physically and mentally draining.

See a psychologist and see if they can help you work through it.

Answer 4

Try writing and see if that helps you. I have trouble communicating as well but when I write I have a lot easier time with communication. Many, many of the problems that I face are resolved because I write to someone concerning the problem (email or a quick note) and I am able to get my point across much better than if I stood in front of that person and tried to reason with them.