Problem......?

Question

hi.my mom runs a daycare,there is this 10 year old girl that always comes over to so-called ''help''.she lives down the street.problem is that she is doing nothing to help.she is obsessed with this two year old boy named corbyn.she swings him around holding his armpits.im a 14 year girl and i know how to care for these children.i have known them and nurtured them for over a year,yea im not there mother but im pretty good with them.she also wants to change his diaper all the time and hes just starting to go in the potty so she wants to take him potty.i think thats pretty creepy.she also acts like she runs the show sometimes and wants to feed them all day.my mom politely tells her that the kids dont need so many snacks but she still hounds about it.when she swings him he yells HELP!what can i say to her that is not too harsh but i just basically wanna say back off?!?!?what should i do?

thanks

loni

Answer 1

your mother's daycare is licensed.  if your mother, the children's parents, and the social workers don't have a problem you can rest well.  perhaps the 10 yr old needs some attention that she isn't getting at home.  try befriending her instead.

Answer 2

SHE NEEDS TO FIND ANOTHER SUMMER GIG...THIS AIN'T WORKIN'

DON'T YOU EVER TELL THAT BOY'S MOTHER WHAT YOU HAVE JUST REVEALED HERE!!!

SHE WILL MESS UP YOU AND YOUR MOMS CREDABILITY AND REPUTATION ESPECIALLY IF HE TELLS HIS PARENTS.....I WOULD HAVE TO FIND OTHER DAYCARE IF I KNEW THIS WAS GOING ON AT MY SONS DAYCARE!!!

KICK HER TO THE CURB!!!!!

Answer 3

ok if you don't want to be too harsh, tell her that you appreciate her service but you guys can manage alone and that she doesn't need to help anymore.  Otherwise be blunt and say she doesn't know how to take care of kids being a kid herself so you would appreciate it if she wouldn't help

Answer 4

tell her that he doesnt like her swinging him and that she needs to back off abit

also tell her that she cant keep feeding them stuff as they might have food alergies and the snacks she is giving them might make them sick

Answer 5

uhhhh....ummm...

say:if u keep on treating them like this the wont survive the real world...or they will think osme need to hold thier hand all of the time

or something like that

record what she does on a notebook (specific times and dates and show your mom.)say to your mom:u might wanna talk to hers about it

Answer 6

hey loni!

lol sounds familiar. the lil boy is in your care ... so YOU have to protect him, whether he's in real danger or not... if he were my child, i'd be upset if he was being bothered by an older girl.

you don't have to be harsh, just blunt:

"he doesn't like that. please put him down."

"you may only give them snacks when i say so or my mom does."

"i appreciate your help, but i (my mom) is in charge of taking him potty."

if she persists, take corbin out of her arms. take the snacks out of her hands. repeat above without smiling. look her right in the eye. she wants to come back, and will listen if you're firmly putting her in her place... especially if she knows she must obey the rules too, or she won't be able to return.

you can say thank you and please when you take charge.. but take charge! girls of this age can be VERY bossy... and omg do i everrrrrrr knowwwwwwwwww this!

Answer 7

sit her down and tell her that she need to give him his space tell her that she need to have fun that is wrong though how she wants to take him to the potty :}

Answer 8

well to be honest,   if it was my son and i found out that was happening i would be finding a new daycare... so your mother being the adult needs to tell her straight out this is my daycare i have set rules, if you want to help that is great but the rules must be followed or you need to find something else to do. set snack times are important, when a child says "help" he/she doesnt like what is happening... the potty issue... she has no reason to be taking him to the potty tha is up to your mom or yes you being 14 you could help mom out as well it being your moms daycare i wouldnt think anything of you taking my child to the potty of changing diapers but i would have issues with some strange child taking that duty, the parents are paying your mom for a reason. if they wanted a 10 yr wtaching their child they would have hired her!  i wish you both the best of luck!  sometimes you have to be harsh when it comes to child safety and your mother job!

Answer 9

tell her he just doent like it or that it may be hurting him...if he says help then its obviously not comfortable for him...talk to your mom and tell her how you fell about this girl and maybe your mom will tell her she doesnt need her help anymore...good luck hun

Answer 10

I think that you might what to ask your mom if the parents know that this little girl is coming over. If not I suggest that she stop because the parents might get mad finding out that a 10 year old is caring for their son. I understand that your mom is there, but ZI'm just trying to give you an excuse to get her to go home! LOL. I understand where you are coming from. I'm 14 also and this good friend of mine had her 5 child. I was excited, but kept having to fight with one older sibling aobut how to handle a baby and that you can't do that to him and such, but is never worked. Finally I just had to say that this was my only time with the baby and you can hold him when you get home!