Problem with 16 year old daughter?

Question

My 16 year old daughter is my only daughter, ive only had boys. She has a horrible attitude problem. if she gets mad she gets furious and unmanageable. She'll start throwing anything she gets her hands on and throws a fit. She wont work because she has a rich father that spoils her. me and her father are divorced. she owes me over 1000 dollars because of her cell phone and other things. I threatened to take it away and she laughs. she dont care for anyone's feelings and she acts like she owns the world. i dont know what to do with her anymore. i am so tired and im at my wits end. does anyone have any advice i need help!

Answer 1

I AM 16 MY PARENTS DONT EVEN HAVE PROBLEMS W/ME I AM OBEDIENT AND ABOUT THE PHONE WHAT CAN SHE DO CRY? CUT THE SERVICE OFF AND GET A PREPAID BUT BY THE WAY SHE ACTS LIKE 3 YEAR OLD DONT LET HER HAVE A PHONE!!!!

IF I ACTED THREW TANTUMS LIKE THAT HAHAH I WOULDNT BE IN THE HOUSE (YOU MAY WANT TO SIT HER DOWN AND TALK TO HER )EPHESIANS 6:1-6

IT IS EMBARRASING WHEN KIDS CONTROL THE PARENTS YOU NEED TO TAKE CONTROL!!

Answer 2

You are the adult. Not your daughter. Take her cell phone whether she laughs about it or not. Within fifteen minutes she'll be wishing she had it back.

What you let your daughter do is a priveledge not a right. Take them away, and it's a known fact she'll be royally pissed, but there is no reason for her to treat you this way. She'll eventually realize that you're boss and not her.

Answer 3

A lot of the time, when kids do this, they want attention.

She is telling you she needs rules & boundaries. She doesn't have them because of her father. Take away her cell phone, or cancel the service. It will get her attention, and ignore her tantrums, if they get to out of hand, you could call the police. It might send her the message that she is out-of-control.

Answer 4

This might sound dumb, but try it. Maybe you just don't know her because she's in a phase, maybe you need hanging out time just you two, without your boys. Best of luck! : _ )

Answer 5

You need to put her in her place now. Take her phone away, don't just threaten it. You have to follow through with everything you say! My mom has an issue with follow through with my 16 yr old brother and I keep telling her but she is a push over and he does what he wants which only hurts him.

Do not give her any money for going out, and if she drives take her license away. Driving is a privilege at that age not a right. At 18 she can get it herself.

Be tough. And if she doesn't like it then she can stay with her father.

She will scream and say she hates you (don't most teenage girls, i know i did!) but she will get over it and realize you are not playing around.

Just remember that at 16 to her she knows everything and you know nothing. She will grow out of that though.

You being tougher on her now is best for her even though it is hardest on you.  

Answer 6

I don't know who she lives with but you and your ex need to set boundaries. She is setting herself up for destruction and he needs to realize that and stop spoiling her. Take away her phone for a month and take away her allowance. This needs to be agreed by you and your ex or it just won't work. Stand your ground and don't let her push you around. Good luck!

Answer 7

talk 2 dad

Answer 8

>>>She wont work because she has a rich father that spoils her. me and her father are divorced. she owes me over 1000 dollars

Well your not a terrible parent. You have provided what many parents fail to which is support their children financially and make sure they can be something in the world buy giving them to option to go to college.

One thing you are lacking in is discipline and the two go hand in hand. I would advise that you actually do take away items. Start serious talks about what you wants to do with her life. Make some authoritative adjustments. Eating diner together is important. Spend time  

Answer 9

just take her cell phone ipod everything away!!!

Take it all away and tell her she canthave it back until she knows how to behave

talk to the dad about it.

Answer 10

send her ot her fathers.

you are the adult

WHIP THAT KID INTO SHAPEE!! take her fone away,,,any thing dear and that she ususes ALOTT

Answer 11

Goodbye cell phone, goodbye ipod, goodbye laptop and favourite  expensive handbag. She will yell and scream and throw a fit and you will IGNORE HER. The moment you show her that her bratty behaviour is upsetting you then she has won. For the sake of your daughter  you also need to sit down with her father and show him that his behaviour towards  her is doing her more harm than good and above all. NO MORE BAILING HER OUT with money. If she is grown up  enough to  have a cell phone then transfer it in to her name and she pays the bills.

Answer 12

take control of u daughter! make her go to military school. or threaten her with it!

Answer 13

whoop her a&&

Answer 14

Ok one of the biggest mistakes parents make is just to threatened to do certain things see u guys keep telling your children that you will do something and u don't do it that's the problem then the children don't believe that you are going to do it next time u tell them when u tell ur daughter that you are going to do something DO IT! don't just tell her. Also if her father gives her everything she wants then u need to talk to her father because that's a big mistake he is only making this situation worse. One thing u could do its get her in counseling go to her school and talk to the counselors to see if they could help her maybe the divorce was the one that made her this way and she acts like that to try to get back at you some how. She needs help! You could also ask her to go out w/ u one day and take her out to dinner like a mom and a daughter night and talk to her ask her what is bothering her so much that makes her act that way maybe some one in school is bothering her you never kw!  

Answer 15

threatening is useless unless you follow through. she won't take you seriously if you are all talk. if she has that much of a tantrum it could be a medical anger problem, the way you describe it

Answer 16

You whole problem lies on this sentance.

"I threaten to take it away but....."

You THREATEN. You don't do. No wonder she just laughs it off, she knows your not going to actually do anything.