Problem with Potting training for girl?

Question

I have started potty training at 2 1/2 years for my daughter. At 3 1/2 she is still NOT fully trained. People make it sound so easy. I have tried stickers, candy, and even giving her pennies to put in a piggy bank. We made that special shopping trip to pick out her own panties. I have showered her with praise when she goes on the big potty and stayed firm. I have taken her every hour to the potty but to no avail. I realize accidents happen but these are not accidents. She knows what she does and she knows how to use the potty. She would rather keep playing or whatever she is doing than to take the time out to go potty. So she stands/sits there and pees her pants or poops them. I have made her clean up her mess but she responds to it as though it is some sort of game. This is starting to become a major issue and I am losing my patience fast. My friends and family are not much of a help considering they either don't have kids of their own or they don't remember that far back, or they had someone else such as a babysitter or daycare potty train their child.

She wears "big girl' panties during the day and pull-ups at night to prevent wetting the bed.

She is really smart when it comes to academics but seems to be extremely stubburn in the aspect of using the potty. All suggestions welcome

Answer 1

My daughter behaved like this when she wanted to do things on her own.  At age 2 my daughter wanted privacy!  I researched and found a very safe and very sturdy stool with sides for the toilet so she would be completely comfortable.  http://www.amazon.com/Elite-Child-Corpor...  This stool was well worth it because she continued using it after being potty trained.  She was very confident and did not have any problems using the toilet.  It really made all the difference.  Hope this helps.

Answer 2

i went through the same thing. i finaly gave up, told her i didn't care if she ever went in the potty again..... the next day, no messes... i think from that day on we had like 5 or so messes ever... not tellin you givin up works, but my daughter was just bull headed and had to think she wasin charge. oh btw, she was using the potty at daycare, just not at home...

Answer 3

bribery... or...

Answer 4

with my daughter i told her that if she started to go potty in the potty all the time that i would throw her a potty party and invite all her friends and it worker and we had a small party with all her friends and the deal was if she potted in the potty for 2 weeks w/o accidents during the day  she would get a party

Answer 5

My daughter is about to turn 3 and I just got het potty trained.  We started when she was a little over 2.  It took me a whole year. But wen she was ready she just did it. it hard to explain and this is not what you wanna hear im sure. But all you can really do is get REALLY excited when she goes and get her excited as well.  But i dont agree with making her clean it up her self. You are punishing her for doing what she had done all her life. All your going to do is make her afraid of going all together.

Children do thing at their own pace and when she is ready she will do it.