Problem with a teammate?

Question

Ok so, volleyball season just started, and my coach is letting me start and letting me all the way around with anyone subbing in for me(unless I do really bad). And well...I don't think my setter really likes me, she looked kinda mad and stuff today but that doesn't mean she can take it out on me. So when I get to front row and I get to play outside, she NEVER sets the ball to me no matter how loud I call for it or if it's the most perfect pass. She's ALWAYS setting middle and right side, and I'm not trying to brag, but I think I'm the better hitter than middle and right side, since I'm on strong side and I actually have PROVEN to be a better hitter. But she just won't set me the ball!! She's always trying take my position also and be outside, but the coach wants her to be a setter, so she's being a baby about it and just won't set the ball to me because she's jealous or something that I get to play there.

What do I do? I really want to hit, but she won't set it to me! I tried to ask her nicely if she could, but she just ignored me.

Should I tell my coach about this? We have a scrimmage tomorrow against another school and I want to get my chance to hit so I can prove myself to the coaches to get me on the A team.

Thanks!

Answer 1

Wow...that brings me back to my days with others. What I did back then, was confront the girl about it because you asked her nicely and she still ignored you. And if you would have told the coach, it wouldn't be a win win situation for both of you because, it's either he would put up another setter and the girl would be totally pissed off at you or the coach might let somebody take your spot but I think he wouldn't do that. What I meant by confronting her is dude like when we are on the court playing don't disrespect me like that. When we play against another team, we have to work as a team and me and you can't have our little pity party right here so I would appreciate it if you can pass me the ball when it is good or when I call for it. Because aren't we a team?. Just talk to her and tell her how you feel because you know asking nicely is not how volleyball is played, you have to be aggressive. That's how it was like for me, we lost the championship because me and the co-captain didn't get along, well, nobody got along with her. She would never pass me the ball during warm-ups for the game. I never got to the hit ball, so I was pissed throughout the whole game, and we lost the championship. Just talk to the girl. And if she still isn't passing the ball to her "accidentally" spike the ball on her. :)

Answer 2

I THINK THAT SHE IS JEALOUS OF U THAT U ARE A BETTER PLAYER AND U SHOULD TELL DON'T LET ONE BAD APPLE KEEP U FROM BECOMING APPLE JUICE LOL BUT YEA U SHOULD TELL

Answer 3

i had the same problem my freshman year. i was like the star player of the team and i was the one that would get all the balls. i would get in front of people and pass the ball and also hit. lmao i was like a ball hogg; but i didn't care. that's why i am where i am now;

just talk to the girl; and tell her straight up; if you don't get your things right; your going to cost us a lot of games because me and you both know i am the strongest hitter in the front> :]

be straight out; she will wimp out or break out right there.

Answer 4

the point is to win..

if its personal she needs to leave her feelings off the court anyways and learn that you are a good hitter and she needs to set you in order to win!! ya'll need to have team bonding like our team is doing..

we're making school spirit shirts for football games, swimming, sleepovers, whatever it takes.. we really wanna win and have a good season and have fun while doing it..

if you win and neither you or the setter have fun while doing it there is a good chance that ya'll being mad will mad everyone else mad and bring them down and you may not have a good season.. so good luck and if nothing you try works tell the coach but make sure he doesnt mention your name because it may make it worse!!!

Answer 5

The first thing to do is talk to your fellow team member directly. The point to the game is working together to win, and it's her responsibility to set personal differences asside and work with all members of the team to win.

If her actions alone cause the team not to perform at peak, your coach(s) will notice and take steps from there. The key is to think positively and stay focused on the game and your duties, and not worrry about her.

Answer 6

"She could be doing that just because you're

prettier than she is."

"Sometimes, a teammate would voluntarily Lose

on purpose, just because of their personal issues,

or because they're corrupted."

Answer 7

Talk to her before going to the coach. But if she is just going to be immature about the whole situation then go to the coach. I'm sorry you have to put up with someone like that, it's people like that that can ruin the spirit of the game for the other players. Good luck!

Answer 8

The coach should notice this! jeez i'm a setter and when ever i don't set outside cus somtimes i forget or whatever hes allways yelling his head off " WHY IS MY MIDDLE GETTING SET UP MORE THEN OUTSIDE" if your coach doesn't notice maybe in stead of yelling "OUTSIDE!OUTSIDE"

Yell "GET OFF YOUR HIGH HORSE AND PUSH THE FRIGGEN BALL A LITTLE FARTHER SO I CAN HIT AND SHOW YOUR *** UP!!!!"

Answer 9

I had the same problem with one of the setters.  She actually told me to the face that she doesn't set people that are doing bad (which was a complete LIE!)  Then, I guess, she supposedly saw me improving and then started setting to me.  You should talk to her and ask her if you did something to make her angry or upset.  If she is just jealous, tell her that the team needs her to be the setter and that there is nothing that she can do about it.  If the problem still persists, you may want to talk to your coach about it, but do it nicely.  If you say it in the wrong tone, she might think that your too good for the team and can ruin everything.  Try talking to her again because if you guys are just competing against each other instead of working as a team, the chances of winning decreases (you might want to tell her that too!)'

Hope this helps, it helped for me, we are actually good friends now!

Good Luck!

Answer 10

Girl, everybody has been there. Approach her and say "Hey, what did I do to upset you? I don't want to have the team lose at the scrimmage because of our little problem." And if she ignores yo tell your coach, you team shouldn't have to pay for that. You are not bragging when you say you are good, just don't say it too much