Problem with boyfriend of 3 years, I need advice.?

Question

So I've been with this guy for 3 years now. We've had our share of ups and downs. It hasn't been easy for sure.

He was invited to some party for someone that he hasn't seen in 10 years or so. So I asked my boyfriend why is he going. My boyfriend said that he wants to catch up with his old friend. This guy will probably have his current friends there, do you really think he'd want to hang out with a stranger all night (my boyfriend was going alone so he'd have no one to hang out with at the party). He got angry and started accusing me of telling him not to go to the party. All I was trying to do was to make a point to him, I didn't want my boyfriend to go to a party and feel left out or anything like that. We are not the partying type.

So he's blaming me for doing this to him all the time. He turned his phone off, so I can't get in touch with him. I can't go to his house because his family doesn't like me. He's always turning things around and making me seem like I'm a bad person. He always makes it seem like he's the innocent one. But in reality, he's not as nice and sweet as everyone thinks he is. I'm not that innocent either, but I'm not as bad as he makes it seem. What should I do? Should I stop trying to call him? Does it really seem like I was telling him not to go?

Answer 1

It sounds like an overreaction, but probably it's due to other problems in the relationship, not this one issue. Do you boss him around a lot? That could lead to a reaction like this. It's hard to say without more information, but you probably just need to re-examine the relationship and see if you can figure out what lead to this. Good luck!

Answer 2

I would just stop calling him so he cools down and calls you back.  

Answer 3

It sounds to me like it may be time to call it quits.  From your point of view you do not get much out of the relationship and not much respect from your boyfriend.  If you don't like the idea of calling it quits, maybe you should give each other more space.  Think about it, he wants to spend time with an old friend and you try to stop him.  Do you trust him, if you do this one night should not be a big deal to you.  His turning off the phone is childish, unless you are calling him 50 times a day.  Don't let yourself appear too needy, it is not what a well adjusted guy wants.  You don't explain why his family does not like you, perhaps they see some flaws you need to work on, perhaps there is no valid reason for their feelings, but in any case it is an issue that will not go away unless you can win them over.  

Anyway as the old song goes "there's too many fish in the sea", maybe it is time to unhook this one and cast your line in somewhere else.