Problem with constantly upset child..?

Question

I work in an afterschools club with children from 5-12 years old, it's fantastic and all the children love it, however there is one child (girl aged 8) who constantly turns on the tears at the slightest thing, it's causing uproar with both the children and staff, consequently no-one wants to be her friend etc. as they're getting really impatient with her. I am trying to work out the cause of these tears with my manager, can you put forward any suggestions??

Answer 1

Years ago my ex-Husband's little girl used to start heaving when she was having a meal. It was basically her way of saying that she was full. I talked to her and explained to her that we did not mind her leaving food on the plate and all she had to do was to say that she was full and that would be that.

Can you use the same principle to talk to the little girl and explain that she does not have to cry, but that she can come to you with the problem, no matter what and you will try to sort it. If she knows she has someone 'safe' to come to, she may do this rather than just starting to cry.

Answer 2

Maybe she is really sensitive to all the noise and commotion. Like auditory hypersensitivity. And crying is the only way that she can deal. Could she be slightly autistic or have ADHD?

Try http://www.ctds.info/noise-sensitivity.h... or http://www.vision-audio.com/

Answer 3

Ask her what's wrong, but be nice about it. I used to cry about EVERYTHING, even getting a question wrong during class. I was like that until 7th grade.

Answer 4

spoiled brat

Answer 5

first of all,I have a daughter who is shy.She has a happy home life,not abused in any way,but in certain situations she is also on the verge of tears.school can be hard for some kids no matter how hard parents try to encourage them.I would talk to this child's mother or father and ask them if something is going on at home,or if the child is shy.I t could be that there is a problem in her family.I would also not allow other kids to pick on the child.If the behavior is attention getting in nature,use the best weapon-ignore it.do not pay any attention to the crying and instruct the other kids to go on about their work.Just find out the cause then you can act.GOD-bless

Answer 6

Maybe she has problems at home.....

Have you talked with her parents. They will

know more.

Answer 7

try to be her friend. talk to her and ask her what's wrong. shes probably sensitive or something is probably happening at home or at school. Have patience and be nice.

Answer 8

maybe she has some up bringing problems maybe there is more goin on in this little girls life maybe she hs issues like my son he is add he has a very easy time makin friends but cant keep them i dunno it is definately something id look into maybe she feels abandoned bein left there after school maybe something happened thru her child hood no one knows about maybe simply sit down and be her friend let her know she cant talk and confide in you

Answer 9

I know a little girl who is 9 ..she was an alchohal syndrom baby ..her emotions will always be over sensitive..kids have alot to deal with . You dont  know what her home is like

Answer 10

try spending more time with her and get her to talk that way she dosent always keep it inside

Answer 11

maybe shes got problems at home.....talk to her and find out....or better yet....encourage the other kids to tease her until she doesnt come anymore...problem solved...

Answer 12

Have you asked the child why she is tearing? Whats going on at home? Major interventions needs to happen before you go any further with this child.