Problem with my childs school.?

Question

Today I dropped my kindergarten age son off at school for the first time today. As any mother I was worried they wouldn't watch him well enough at the school. Everyone told me to calm down/they deal with this stuff every year.

At the end of the school day I went to pick him up. All the parents picking their children up have to wait in line with their cars numbered. Basically they bring your child to you as you drive up. To my complete horror I noticed my son had left the group of other children and went into the parking lot by himself!!! He just walked away from the attendants and the other children. Of course I flipped out and got him and put him directly in the car with my sister.

I walked to the attendants and asked where my son was(by his name) and they didn't even know who I was talking about. No one had noticed he was gone and in my car.

He could have been picked up by ANYONE and they wouldn't have known! No one was in the office for me to speak to then... tomorrow I plan to go to the school and see what's to be done about this.

My question for everyone is what am I to do? They're just going to tell me what I want to hear or it was just the one time or tell me it's my fault for not making him understand he shouldn't wander off. I'm going to have so much trouble not chewing peoples head off. He's my only son... can anyone blame me for being angry? I don't have the money to teach him myself... I have to work to support us.

I've told my son over and over not to wander off... like any 5 yr old boy he wont listen. I KNOW it's the first day of school and everything is crazy... but today of all days... they should have been more attentive for the children who aren't used to the way things work.

I just don't know what to do.

Answer 1

You must go to the school principal and explain what happened. First, you must calm down, though, and be reasonable, but firm. You need to tell them in no uncertain terms that what they did was a breach of trust and that it can never happen again. You must make sure that everyone at that school knows who you are, what your car looks like, what your child's name is and what he looks like, and what you expect of every one of them. Get yourself (or the person you designate) at the head of the pick-up line and be a very active, in-your-face (but polite) person that everyone will recognize. Introduce your son to all the attendants and make a name for yourself as "that person" if necessary. When it comes to safety, go all out!!

   You must also explain to your son how important this issue is to you. Help him to find ways to concentrate on his task and raise the issue to him every day. Praise him every single day that he does the right thing, and continue to emphasize its importance without scaring him.

  If you're a Christian, you have the added assurance that God is looking out for your best interests. You can pray for your son's safety and know with confidence that he will be taken care of, as God cares more for him than even you do!

Answer 2

forget what anyone else say.

ALOT OF PEOPLE THAT I KNOW OR ANY RESPONSIBLE PARENT

WOULD OF SUE THEM...

Do they know what could of happened to your child....

He could of been picked up by some one and been killed...

I would of gotten even angrier especially if that was my only son....

The school is suppose to make sure the kids who attend the school are safe....and be well taughted

Answer 3

In this case I would talk to the Principal since obviously school security and policy needs to be  strengthened./

Answer 4

First I understand Completely why you are angry there should be no reason why you should'nt be. but i feel it is not completly up the the teachers and staff to get your child to understand the rules.  You Teach your child to make sure that he understands he can not leave the group alone to wander when its time to go home and don't get in the car with strangers. Yes he is only five but he knows what to do when you continue telling him and he sees by you showing him. You can never leave it up to someone else no matter if its at school or not to follow the rules. The teachers have many kids to watch it is not a daycare it is school where they teach the kids the basics the rest is up to you and yeah you might not have the money or time to teach him but that is the safety of your child and him wandering off will only last so long once he understands what to do you will feel more comfortable letting him be there. Some people have to start their children a year later because they feel the chid can't comprehend to the rules and weird enough most of those children are more likely to graduate. As for going down to the office you should go straight to the principle and let him or her know the situation and figure something out because this is about the safety of him. But most likely its up to you to make time to get him to understand.

Answer 5

i think that you should politely talk to the teacher

and tell him/her to make sure that the kids are safe.

that they just wont wander off by themselves.

tell them the story of your sone wandering off by himself.

and ask them nicely to please watch the students more carefully!

REMEMBER: POLITELY!

they will understand that you're just worried!

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