Problem with my grandson, advice?

Question

my grandson jimmy who lives with me and my wife is ussually on a good behavior and he really isnt misbehaving, but his teacher called me and told me he needed to speak to me, and inside jimmies notebook were drawings. He drew drawings of stick figures havin s*x and he makes comics with his friends during recess, but mainly he draws alot of *****, and its quite possible he is the one who drew p***s's on a few desks at school, but he isnt being accused of that right now.

is this a phase? should i be worried jimmy has such a dirty mind?

Answer 1

Sounds like a normal prepubecent male to me.  He doesn't have a "dirty" mind he has the normal mind of a boy entering puberty.  Obviously the teacher needs to go back to school and re do her child psychology courses, because she obviously didn't learn anything the first time around.

Answer 2

Depends.  how old is Jimmy?  If he's too young to really know about that stuff, then I would be concerned.  He could have been sexually molested or someone is coaching him.  If he's around that age that he's just curious, then I wouldn't be too concerned about it, however, you don need to speak to him.  There are times and places where he can do things like that.  

I would start off with asking him where he knows about these kinds of things, just to rule stuff out.  when you are satisfied that there is nothing going on, then let him know that he can draw that stuff in his room and his room is where it will stay.  You could also take him to a museum of art and show him how nudes are done tastefully.  Maybe he thinks the human body is beautiful, but the only thing that's around people these days are p**n and s*x filled tv shows.

Answer 3

It's on the outer limits of normal.  All boys that age think about s*x ALL the time.

What to worry about:

If he's this interested in s*x, he's going to take advantage of any opportunity presented to him, and I'm sure there are plenty.  

I know it runs against everything we learned in proper parenting, but you need to give him unlimited access to condoms and make sure he carries a couple in his wallet at all times.

He's bound to become sexually active, and your job is to protect his health.  Condoms.

TX Mom

Answer 4

I feel that if he is drawing that type of stuff in his school books then I would sit down and ask Jimmy why he is doing this sort of thing. Have the birds and the bees talk with him. That is something you do with your wife. There are so many kids these days having babies at 10 and on. Please let him know he should wait till the right time.

Let him know what's right and wrong that he shouldn't be doing that sort of thing. He might be going through some sort of peer pressure at school.  If this persists take him to a Dr. and see if he can have Jimmy evaluated.

Answer 5

No, it is not a phase!   You did not say how old he is, but he is getting this information from somebody.....find out.   Just curious, why did the teacher call you and not his Mom??

Answer 6

I think it would be normal if he was around twelve but since he's so young he had to see this somewhere, and if he was my son I would question the people who I had recently trusted him with and go from there and explain to him that at this time his focus shouldn't be on that.