Problem with my mother in law?

Question

first of all thanks for ur help so far.Now it is little related to indian culture. new things is, I live with my In laws for 3 years. It includes my husband's brother, sis, mom and dad. as a cultural thing i have to be nice with all of them all the time. but at home my father in law always said stuff which is not appealing to ears. also for sure mom in law was part of it. mom in law always showed me that she loves her yonger son and daughter. even if i am sitting with her she calls for her son if she needs something. u know what i mean. she does not speak english. one day she was sick and she has to go to the doctor and she was with her son there and same time was my appoitment at the same doctor. she didnot talk to me there. she is pretending she is very sick like close to die. i dont know. i didnt even bother to ask her. but his family is looking to me like i am the one responsible for everything. all family just hates me. my husband is crushed between all of this. he yells at me because he is not able to come out of any solution. Now i dont know should i talk to my mohter in law like if she is ok or not. what should i do. i hate her. there is no way we can live separate. what should i do. she is creating enemies for me. her whole family does not like me at all.

Answer 1

If your not happy why stay? You have a responsibility towards yourself that's 'You come first'. I understand that you love your husband, but if he's yelling at you only, and letting his family treat you like c**p.....? Hows that fair ?  

Answer 2

These things are not going to change.  If you can't live with it, then your only option is to leave.  Hopefully, your husband goes with you.  If he doesn't, then he never really loved you the way you deserve to be loved.

Answer 3

why not get your own place just you and your husband

Answer 4

If your husband loves you, he'll care for your feelings. I'm sure you guys are grown-ups now. I don't understand why you can't leave and start a family of your own. Is it Indian custom to have to stay with the in-laws for a certain period of time before you guys can move on on your own? If so, that's just crazy. You're miserable, and that's hard to hide. Tell your husband that you want things to work within the family too, but it's not your fault his parents despise you.

Answer 5

Your mother in law will never change. She has turned everyone against you.  Your husband should have a talk with her to see why she acts that way with you.  In the mean time if you have to live with them then just ignore them all.  

Answer 6

so leave and make a new life for yourself