Problem with parents and friends , need advice ):

Question

Basically , my best friend lives up in guildford and i live in tunbridge wells . Its an easy hour train ride away and i go up every two weeks or so and sometimes every week if its the holidays . Its not expensive but he can't come down here because his parents have trust issues with him coming to a different county. My parents haven't met him and they used to have no problem with me going up there . But they are starting to get funny about it and aren't going to let me go up anymore! I actually can't cope without seeing him and it would be horrible . They say " why doesn't he come here " and i tell them and they don't seem to understand! i actually like guildford and the train trip ,I don't want him to come here . my parents are holding me back and its going to make me very unhappy ...

advice? x

Answer 1

Ask them why they are having an issue with it now when it has never been a problem in the past.  Ask them if you have given them a reason to mistrust you.  If they say no then ask them why they are punishing you for something you have no control over.

You can also ask you friends parents personally if they will let him come meet your parents so you may continue to visit.  As parents themselves they should understand.  Maybe they can bring him over and once all the parents meet, there will no longer be a problem.

Hopefully this will work.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

so if you were your parents what would your answer to to your question be, if Im not wrong you would question why he cannot come to see you,there is a worry for your parents as to why he wont come if it was just trust like you say then it would also be a problem for you to go to him, it all sounds a bit one sided and not fair, on your parents for taking all the flak off of you, he is a bit of a woos if he has no say in where and when he can go any where dont you agree I think its jst so much easier for you to do the work he does nothing try listening to what your parents say by that I mean LISTEN dont just hear what they say    

Answer 3

talk to him and see if you can get him to come down at least once.. or meet up halfway instead.

or just say to your parents. at least let me go up one last time to say goodbye and mke them feel really guilty.

im sure yourll see him again soon, try the meeting halfway thing though im sure that would work  

Answer 4

If you want this to be easier on you, let your parents meet him! You are running off periodically to see, in their eyes, some stranger. I'm sure they will feel a bit differently if you let them meet him.  

Answer 5

maybe they think something is going on with the two of you? or since you never bring him to your house maybe they think he doesnt even exist and you're just going up there to party or hang out with people they don't know or trust. try convincing his parents to let him come to your place just once so that your parents will trust you to go there the other times

Answer 6

you spoiled sea cow i would kill to get out of my home for one day  ive been stuck on  this property for like my whole life and maybe its the probation or just life ... get over it your parents suck my parents suck they all suck but do u know y they suck its because they care and they dont wanna wait nine months to see u actually turn into a cow

Answer 7

Sit down with them and have a calm discussion- ask them what specifically it is about this recent issue with the trips. Are they providing the money for this or are you? You and your parents may have different opinions on the word 'expensive.' Make sure that you're spending time with your family as well as your friend- they could be feeling like they're being pushed to the side.

If your friend is still unable to come to tunbridge wells, make plans for you and your parents to visit him so they can meet him and spend time getting to know him- and maybe meet his parents as well so that they might feel better letting him come to visit you if they know your family :)

Answer 8

Why don't you call him or send him a message on myspace

Answer 9

sorry need points

Answer 10

I know you dont want him to come to you but maybe once in a while he could just so your parents can meet him. They probably think you guys are together and probably dont trust this boy because they have never seen him. Maybe talk to him and see if his parents would talk to your parents to arrange a visit to you once a month and the rest of the month (3 weeks) you can go to him? That way your parents are happy because they will know who you are hanging out with and your happy cuz you get to see him and still ride the train every 3 weeks? Good luck! :)