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Problem with these 2 friends. Help! Thanks. Caution: Long story ahead.?

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ok i'll put this in point form so it's easier to read

-leo and sarah have fallen out with each other before, but recently became friends again thanks to me.

-i asked them if they wanted to work for my parents. they said SURE. so i said the stint would be from end june till end august. they agreed.

-sarah suddenly said she couldn't work, so i said it was oK. leo came anyway, and started.

-after awhile, sarah said she could start work. so i let her come.

- leo's work discipline before sarah came and after sarah came were vastly different. before she came, he was quite hardworking. when she came, all he wanted to do was play, fool around, surf the web etc.

-their work discipline was terrible: their lateness ranged from half an hour to a few hours late, they're neighbours so they like to wait around each other alot (if one is late, both will be late), whatever my parents tell them to do in a meeting they will forget and think theres nothing else to do, they need constant reminders or pushing for them to complete urgent tasks, etc. it was just h**l workign with them.

-i sat them down twice to talk to thema bout their work discipline, the first time it was short and sweet, i was smiling and was really nice about it, they took it well. the second one was last thursday. they appeared to have taken it well, but i could tell leo was a bit irritated.

-i told them that i won't mix personal and work matters. and now that we're working, i expect them to be responsible adults and not children, and i'm just trying to make sure everything runs smoothly as i am in charge of the operations around here.

-then suddenly on monday morning 1.30am, leo sends me a text msg saying that they want to stop working already, and that their decision is final, and besides theres nothing else for them to do(but there are plenty of things for them to do in the first place!). and he said "like you said, work and personal matters dont mix"

-i then told him that sarah already promised to work till end august, and that he has volunteered to stay on till september, so if they were to quit suddenly, the right thing to do is be responsible and tell me one week beforehand and pass me all the outstanding work.

-i called him striaght back, and i called sarah striaght back, but no answer.

-if it were true, i don't think this has nothing to do with work anymore. it's getting personal right?

-it seems to me they must've talked about me behind my back

-why? because he sent me that text msg to me at 1.30am, and since they're both neighbours, they meet everynight around that time to chill and hang around each other.

-i'm thinking of just dropping them as friends, and not to bother about them anymore.

-but do you think i should ask them out and talk to them and find out what really is goign on?

-or do you think i shouldn't bother, and leave them knowing they won't succeed in life if they keep behaving this way?

i really don't know what my question is, but if you do have any advice for me, please feel free to leave something here. thanks :- )

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  1. Well there not really being friends after promising to stay on and being late and stuff after you told them TWICE, i think you need to talk once more and if they don't listen tell them how unreasonable there being and if they say stuff like "I'm already quitting" or others that proves that there is nothing gonna come out this friendship so then dump them as friends and then they might realise how stupid they have been to lose such a great friend =]

    Good luck on what you choose =] x


  2. too long to read

  3. Ugh, sticky situation!

    First of all, I would try to sort out the work-thing: is everything going to be alright? Can you handle the workload? It is clear Leo & Sarah will not be working anymore, so give up on those employees and make sure the workload gets finished, either by doing it yourself or by hiring other employees.

    Then come the friends. As I said before: drop the whole work-thing. Let them know that that is history now: you tried it out, it didn't work. Try and get together to do something fun, like go to the movies or something. If they say yes, and you all have a good time, then you know you're still friends and that it just didn't work out to be colleagues. If, however, they decline the invitation and consistently seek less contact with you, it might be time to ask them for an honest explanation.  

  4. This is an example of why it would probably have been best to have hired two people that you did not know.

    You would not have had the same problem when it came to them doing their work, they would have listened when you told them about their work, and you would have been able to expect a weeks notice when they quit.

    Don't hire friends again.

  5. I THINK U LEARNT THAT U DO NOT HIRE FRIENDS TO WORK WITH YOU,,AND THEY SEEM REALLY CLOSE,,U CAN TRY TO B THERE FRIENDS,,BUT I THINK THEY ONLY WANT EACH OTHE RHAS  FRIENDS,,SOME PEOPLE CANT HANDEL HAVING OMRE FRIENDS THATN ONE AT A TIME,,THERE MINDS CAQN THANDEL IT,,LOL...THERE ACTING VER IJMATURE,,,I WOUL FIND DIFFERENT FRIENDS,,CAUS EI THINK THESE TO WILL JUST B RUDE TO YOU,,,PEACE

  6. Wow, Leo really bit the hand that fed him.  It's nice that he dictated to you his workload and didn't get with you about tasks that needed to be done.  I would go forward without contact with either - let them talk to you about this.  

    Remember, if you drop them as friends and say so to them, you made the business relationship personal - which you were trying to avoid.  

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