Problems With My Brother.

Question

k so I'm 15 and my brother is 3, and he always does things that p**s me off. my mom always says that "hes only three, he doesn't know any better" but i know he does and i know that hes just doing it on purpose. like if i tell him to stop touching my playstation, he will laugh and throw it on the ground (its broken, and same goes with everything i own) but whenever i get mad at him my mom spazzes at me. like honestly i cant deal with him destroying everything i own and getting away with it. it would be different if he actually didn't know any better but he does cause i can just tell by looking in his eyes.

Answer 1

Your mom is right, he is only 3.  And you are right, his behavior is not appropriate.

First, 3 IS old enough to understand personal property and while he might not fully understand right from wrong, he should know that there are things he doesn't touch.

What really occurs to me is that your little brother is pretty desperate for your attention.  A small child like that will often do very bad things to get attention.  Negative attention is better than none at all.  If this situation isn't dealt with now, it will get worse.  

So, what can YOU do.  First, you might want to look up a little information onf child behavior.  My favorite is Dr. Brazelton.  He has lots of ideas on how to create effective boundries for toddlers.  I used his techniques and have never had to strike my daughter.  The other thing that occurs to me is that you make an effort to give him attention whenever he does something good.  You should try to reinforce any good behavior you see.  You should also make a point of finding some time for him each day.  I'm not talking an hour.  It could be as little as 10 minutes.  Maybe when you come home from school, sit down and have a snack together.  That might help with his attention seeking from you.

Best of luck.

Answer 2

You're a kid and he's a even younger kid. 3 year olds love to rebel, just to see what they'll get, and it's his way of experimenting with human nature (growing-up-process) to see how certain things affect people.

And until he learns how much it hurts / angers you, he'll keep doing it, because emotion and human nature is a fascinating subject to the young, learning human mind.

Tolerate him. He's only a baby. He doesn't "do it on purpose" to p**s you off, it's his way of learning.

Everyone with younger siblings / older siblings goes through these situations, I know I did.

It's also your fault for keeping your playstation and other valuables within his reach. There are millions of places where valuable things can be hidden from a 2 ft human !! Be responsible, be the older brother, be understanding and be a MAN! Hide your things where he can't find them. Take the effort after you're done using your playstation, to stow it away in a safe place, such as a close-able closet.

Your little brother's life / development (and any human life, really) is waaay more important than a stupid playstation. I was your age a few years ago, and had the same teen hormones, teen treasures, that were mercilessly destroyed by the kids.

You'll understand all this in a few years. Until then, learn to tolerate and be responsible. I know how unnverving it is. Have man-to-mom conversation with your mom, and tell her how you feel, and make an effort to take care of your things where he cant find them, and make an effort to treasure your younger brother, cos' he can't help doing what he does.

Answer 3

instead of getting mad, act calm. they see that it pisses you off, so they do it more. that's the whole logic of it, to p**s you off. so don't let it. bite your tongue and instead of yelling or whatever, calmly ask him to stop. and you do have to take into consideration that he is just 3. kids will be kids. we were all that way, even if we think we weren't.  

Answer 4

its a three year old its what they do jus deal with it. keep your S**t out of reach. its not that hard. your little bro is jus trying to get your attention. try playing with him.    

Answer 5

He Is Only 3 - I Bet You Did All Kinds Of Annoying Things When You Were His Age, He Probably Just Wants Your Attention I Bet He Thinks The World Of You.

Answer 6

He sounds like he is a Stewie from Family Guy. Slap him around a little. Let him know that you can't just go around and mess **** up. If your mother won't do it then it is up to you. If you let him get away with it, it will only get worse.

Answer 7

I sympathize with you.  I had a brother just like that, only he was older.  My mother always favored him.  She never made him stop--I actually think she thought it was cute.  Anyhow, if you can put a new door k**b on your room and keep it locked when you are not there--go for it.  It is the only way I know of to keep him out of your things---it appears your mom is definitely not going to do anything about it.  If she won't let you change the k**b, then you will have to start hiding things up high like on closet shelves where little bro can't get at them.  Good luck, just remember that in a couple of years you can get out of there.

Answer 8

Your Mom Right , But you Should Respect your brother more maybe it won't happen but he still broke everything you own hide it somewhere he don't know or a high place he cant reach reply back

Answer 9

Alot of children are like that, and I really don't like little kids.

I do my best to ignore them, and if kids get on my nerves and throws a fit, or misbehaves then the child does need to be punished, and you just need to explain it to your mom, you could have far more problems as your brother grows up.  

Answer 10

I hate it when adults think little children are innocent. They act like demons most of the time rofl well i think you should keep your brother away from your stuff and say to your mom if he's only 3 then he shouldn't be touching my playstation so keep him away.

Answer 11

he's only 3, stop being a brat