Problems concerning my Father In law please help!!?

Question

I have been married to my husband now for ten years. We have two kids, a boy and girl and another on the way. Over the past ten years I have had to tolerate a lot from my husbands parents especially his father who is manipulative, domineering and conniving.

The last time we had him stay he pushed my son into a table and then threw him into a cold shower because he was scratching with his eczema. He lies and tells people that we have taken all his money and thrown him in the gutter. He will ring up demanding to speak to my son and then incite an argument where I will just hang up and he will ring my husband straight up and lie and say I've swore at him or lie and tell him that I have told him all this c**p that wasn't the case. He has tried setting my husband and his brother up with other women in the hope they would leave us.

He sends parcels up in the mail addressed to my daughter and son and when they open it there's nothing for her in there. When he rings up to see if they have received it he will tell her that if her mother would allow him to see her then she would get something. A friend of mine was told by her daughter in law that he was planning on calling social services so we would have our children removed just because I won't allow them to stay with him.

I just don't know what to do anymore it's been ten years and I have had enough, I love my husband dearly but i don't know why have to put up with this much c**p, especially being pregnant. Maybe I should just concede and leave? I suppose I can demand he chooses between the two of us but that will only make him resent me, I don't know what to do Does anyone have any suggestions?

Answer 1

don't leave, just don't speak to your FIL anymore, refuse to answer his calls (you need called ID) tell your husband he has to deal with him and that the next time he puts his hands on your kids he will not be welcome anymore.

Answer 2

1) Talk to your husband and tell him what you have told us.

2) Your husband has been dealing with him longer and may just overlook his odd behavior.

3) Tell him that his Dad cannot treat your children that way. Not only could he hurt them but they will always remember his behaviors.

4) You are right your husband's Dad is controlling. He is trying his best to get you and the kids out of the picture. Then his son can spend more time and money on him. He's a selfish old man and you need to distance yourself from the old man or he will end your marriage.