Problems in relationship with my fiance what would you do?

Question

Me and my fiancee have been having some problem in are relationship i need to vent and ask for help!. Me and my fiancee went bowling Sunday and i was trying to have fun and the only thing he was talking about was my mom and i was getting very angry about it.

Like my mom got him a shirt and i gave it to me and he got mad b/c it was from my mom and he said for someone that doesn't like me why did she buy me something he thought that there is something behind it she was just being nice.

yes my mom doesn't like him b/c she does have a BIG reason he only works 2 days and only works from 5:00pm-10:30pm and he hates working and my mom is thinking for me he can't even get out of his home and the only thing he has money for is to pay the cell phone bill so she does have a reason.

But the big thing is he says that my mom controls me and she doesn't he goes she has to pick out stuff for me and you can't wear cearting thing well she don't want my but hanging out and my chest hanging out and i don't even like dressing like that and a other thing she doesn't like me wearing like shirts that have skulls,dead bodies,shirts with mask like slipknot or Mushroomhead.

And he says that i can't go places that is not true at all she takes me any wear i want to go she takes time to take me up there to see him 4 times a week for 2 hour are more and she sit in a parking lot and talks on the cell phone now i bet not many parents would do that. My mom pick him up and take us anywear we want to go and he doesn't even pay for gas and gas price keep going up and she does all the running his mom won't bring him down to are house.

And he says that i always tell me mom wear we are i do it for a reason b/c if something happen to the cell phone at least she know wear to pick me up i don't have to call in i just do.

So my question to everyone is who controls who do you think he controls us or do you think my mom controls me just so you know we do everything for him when he gots day off we go. Like my Aunt is coming down from VA and we hardley get to see her and she says that she doesn't want to coome on a day that we see each other just keep that in thought.

Let me know don't be rude about your answer! Thanks for reading it all

Answer 1

Here's what it sounds like to me: you both don't drive or live alone or work full-time jobs.  What makes you think marriage is a good idea?  I tend to agree with your mom.  He may be the one you love and "the right one" but it is blatantly obvious that it is the wrong time.  It sounds like you both depend on your mom to drive you around just to meet each other.  Sounds like a high school boyfriend to me.  

And he sounds a bit controlling and selfish, too.  He does not sound mature enough to marry anyone.  Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait... do I have to say it again?  Grow up first, get out on your own and live an independent life away from both your families before you do anything as hasty as get married.

Answer 2

If you do go through with this marriage he will keep talking c**p against your mom and eventually make it where you will never see or hardly ever talk to her. He is trying to start the controlling over you. You better slow down on your wedding plans hun. You don't want to be married with him working 5 1/2 hrs 2 days a week. Good luck

Answer 3

Ok - I got to the part of the question where you said

"he only works 2 days and only works from 5:00pm-10:30pm and he hates working and my mom is thinking for me he can't even get out of his home and the only thing he has money for is to pay the cell phone bill so she does have a reason"

I know you love him - but he has a lot of growing up to do. How is he ever going to support you or a family? These days both people usually need to be working full time in order to get by...your mom has every reason to be concerned and you should be concerned about your future and well being. Sounds like both of you have a little bit of growing up to do. Until you guys can both get around and support yourselves I wouldn't recommend marriage.  

Answer 4

If you're getting married, why don't you drive yourself?

and he should be able to help support you both.  can you support him?