Problems with my brother!! plz help!?

Question

ok so i'm 17 and a little bit immature..and my brother is 19. we have grown up arguing, well when i was 6 years old he made some friends that weren't all that great and he started being a jerk to me. then i was mean back and we have been fighting ever since. i just found out that he told my cousin that he thinks i'm (ok so i don't want to curse so ill just put the definition) a female dog who dresses in little clothing and flirts with a lot of guys (and im not that). how do i get him to like me again? he also said he wishes i was never born..which is really hard on me because my brother and i used to be best friends before we started fighting. please help!!

Answer 1

Wow 10+ years of arguments can be difficult to get past.

The most important thing is to first communicate your feelings, but don't expect a fantastic response right away. He might not be ready to mend the relationship.  Then you need to follow up by showing a difference in actions as well as words.  Actions speak much louder than words and it shows that you are sincere in your desire to become friends again.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I understand my brother did that to me but

u sorta have to try not to fight with him my brother finally understood that its immature to fite since he is old enough

so its hard for me too u just gotta  be patient about it

Answer 3

Aww im sry to hear that. But the Best thing to do is talk to him about it!

Answer 4

I have heard it said "You teach people how to treat you" & also "You choose the behaviour, you also choose the consequences".

I'd be willing to bet that your 19 year old brother would like to have a better relationship with his little sister as well. The only problem is, neither one of you has the courage to step up & be the hero. By that I mean that one of you has to make the conscious decision to stop this immature, & disrespectfull behaviour & start treating the other like he/she deserves.

Up to now you have chosen to get back at your brother, & he gets back at you, & it goes on & on in perpetuity. The consequence of that is the relationship that you now have with your brother.

If you are ready to make a change, then YOU have to be the hero, & change your behaviour toward your brother. Treat him with respect, & he will soon learn to return it in kind.

Answer 5

kill him with kindness... be nice to him...and tell him you're sorry for all the fights and you just want to get along. Maybe if you know that he wants something, you could get it for him. Or if he needs help with something (like...suppose his car broke...take it to the shop for him, pay for it, and don't accept his money) and tell him he doesn't owe you anything for it.

when you guys start getting into a fight...just be quiet...let him yell at you and when he's done, tell him you're sorry...no matter how he reacts at the moment, he'll be wondering why you submitted and let him "win" the fight.

Just be nice and ignore it when he's a jerk...don't talk back...

i hope everything works out...my brother and i were the same way...

Answer 6

Buy him something nice i have kinda the same problem with my sister but not because of friends my dad says its because we don't get out of the house enough but if that doesn't work then just try to be nice to him and he might return the favor u never know but if that doesn't work then just tell him that u don't want to fighanymore goodluck

Answer 7

You are talking about over 10 years of fighting. Don't expect it to dissolve anytime soon. About all you can do is stay away from him and get on with your own life, education, career, and maybe 10 years later, you and he can come together as adults.

That is how it worked for my brother, myself and 2 sisters. The brother was always a trouble-maker... he stole from us girls and really absorbed the majority of family resources in a bad way. This past couple of years, we girls have gotten to know him (we're all in our 40s) during the trips to visit Mom in the hospital. I expect to be teaching him how to use a computer sometime this winter.

Answer 8

I wouldn't be worried, it's just sibling rivalry. I'm Fourteen and my sister is Seventeen, and we have been fighting for years, and we talk badly about each other to other people as well, and the name calling never stops. I even remember when I was Four I dumped her underwear drawer on her boyfriend's head. I guarantee that he loves you. It happens with every normal siblings. Hope I helped.

Answer 9

First you need to mend your bridges you need to see if your bother is willing to make up.  It is not going to be an easy thing to do.  Your going have to apologize to him and mean it.  It may work and it may not.  Change you appearance so he will know that your for real

Good Luck