Problems with my lil brother.....?

Question

ok this boy started threatenin me for playin music while he was eating his breakfast rme and i was like ok ill turn it down...then he started talkin bout he was gonna punch me in the face and hurt me and all that so i was pretending to call a friend of mine and i was like he's gonna beat u up but i never really called cuz i was JOKING!!! but dude thought i was serious and started talkin bout he didnt claim me anymore but that dont bother me cuz i been stopped claimin him so he got mad and blew up talkin bout how dare i....so i was like how dare i? naw ne9ro how dare u? and then i had to explain to my grandma that i was jokin but he wasn't so she said the next time he threatens me to call the cops on him..he is 14 and im 17 smh....but he has anger problems....just last week he threw a book at me and got mad when i threw it back rme...and went and got his martial arts sticks and started actin like he was gonna beat me wit them and stood right outside my door yellin threatening to bust it down...what should i do?

Answer 1

These sound like some major anger issues he has. You should really tell your mom about them. I know you do not want to be a taddle tale or anything but if you do not tell her these problems could worsen.

Answer 2

I really have to consider that you're joking, but I have been in your shoes. I had an older brother that had some anger issues and even now, I have to choose my words wisely so that we don't have any drama. Find some common ground with him. I really hope that you've not written him off, maybe he just doesn't feel like anyone cares. If you call the cops though, you'll show him that you're afraid. When you show fear, the next time he can threaten to stab you and even though it'll probably never happen, you'll have to call the cops again. He will know that he's got you and that you'll never mess with him again. Don't take this as advice, but my brother never quit messing with me until I decked him in the eye. Hopefully, it won't come down to that with you two though.  

Answer 3

Kick his lil annoying *** in the balls, that'll teach him. So anytime he thinks about throwing something or busting the door down, he'll have the memory of the pain you caused him. Yeah girl, just draw that leg back as far as you can, and go FULL force right in between those legs and squish those lil blueberries till you have juiced them real good. That'll show his lil bad ***.

Answer 4

Firstly, it sad to hear what you're going through, I really wish you the best in the situation. Who's the oldest you or him? Now that being said, from a parent's point of view or even an elderly point of view, the oldest child, sibling, or person is 9 out of 10 the oldest is considered to be the wisest of the two and the more responsible. More over, it's obvious that your brother may be quite immature, but I do not find everything he did to be wrong, now hear me out before you curse me out :)). This is 100% of my point of view! I assume that he knows his limits, or weak points, and he ( the lil bro) asked his older sister to "turn off her music while I am eating." Despite all the threats it seems like that was his intention, and you did great by turning it down, BUT I assume that you are the smartest and the more mature of the two of you. Once he continued to lash out like that, why fuel his fire and leave the music on? If I knew my lil brother is out of his mind, with anger problems in all, and he asked me not to do something even if it was something that I love to do, I would would leave it off at that particular time, in hopes that I would not have to see his ugly side, he may pick up just one thing from my actions, and that hopefully he'll be easy on me in the future when he's doing something that bothers me at that moment. You are the smartest, OUT smart him :), teach him in a way where he doesn't even realize he's being taught. As far as the threats are concerned, after you turned the music off, that would have been the perfect opportunity to say "no problem, but can you please ask me nicer next time, with a smile." And you know what, that probably would have been the end of all the drama right there, he would have went about his business and you would have went about yours, I presume. But instead the smarter sibling decided to stoop down to his level escalating the entire situation, and don't get me wrong, which he was dead wrong for, but it did not have to come to that. I'm sure you know your brother pretty well, so I would expect you to know what sets him off and what doesn't. You know your parents, therefore, you know what they like and don't like. :)) You know your bf, and what he likes and doesn't like. You know the problems your brother has, teach him by acting in a respectable manner, so what if it doesn't affect him now, but it may affect him later. He may look back and say I did this, that, this, that, and that, and my sister was ALWAYS kind and respectful to me! You never know, but what I do know is you being the bigger person and turning off the music was a better action than what you chose. Now as for your brother he needs to be taught, not disclaimed. I, myself have troubled brothers, so I'm not giving you any advice that did not work for me. Be the light that your brother sees when all else fails, and he's still young so you still have time, he's still pretty impressionable. Be patient and kind to him, out smart him, teach him, show some affection to him, tell him how much he means to you, you almost have to give him extra attention. Don't fuel his fire by acting the way he acts, because that's really not helping him. In addition, tell your parents, let them admonish him. You need to take a different approach especially since your only his sister. Ask him, "If I had a bf that talked to me the way you just did, threats in all, how would you feel, would you let it happen, would you want to do something about it?." You can even use his mother of his daughter as an example, and explain how you feel about him talking to you that way, hey you can even throw some tears in it :) make him feel how you felt when he says things like that. Be kind in your approach, but you really need to apologize to him, for what you said and did, never mind what he did and said. Take advantage of the times he isn't so angry. Try to find a way to connect to him, something between you and him. I SINCERELY APOLOGIZE for the length this hit home for me and I love giving advice. For example: I just, I mean just got done speaking to my lil brother about stealing, and was from me. Well I hope everything works out for you, I really do. OH and the cops last without a doubt unless he physically harms you and your father can't take care of it. :) Take Care sweetie!

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Wow I'm so sorry for the length!!!

Answer 5

I'll try to avoid him. Seems like your brother probably had some abusive problems in his past, that's he taking it on you. There might be trouble in his school or friends that maybe acting like that.