Problems with parents living at the childs house

Question

im 25 yrs old and me and my friend have a apartment together ,earlier this year she moved in with us because of health reasons and she couldnt work ,and the first few months everythings been ok ,but now she has it in her head that everything should be her way in the house like we cant have company over lady friends or drink or make any noise after a certain time ,and she treatens to move out and live on the streets ect ect ect shes my mom and only parent i cant just let her leave like that but shes packing as we speak,if your parent(s) live with you ,do u have this type of probles and how do you put up with it???

Answer 1

i would try calming her down. maybe because she has a fever right now she a little tired. for the next couple of days(like 4 days) i would make dinner for her. make sure she has what she needs and if something goes wrong again try seeing the way she's talking about. dont start an argument with her. if u do just say sorry, dont just walk out the room or yell back. after some time she should relize that ur responsible to invite friends over again.just give her some time. my mom can get a little cranky too.

Answer 2

My mom came to live with me twice & I can only attribute her behavior to REVENGE.  For all the c**p I must have pulled when I was a kid, she was paying me back.  Its harder when you bring a friend into the situation, I lived alone.  

I am sorry that you are going through this, but talk to her if you can.  Tell her you love her & that you know she is going through a bad time, but she is a guest & see if you can work out a compromise that all 3 of you can live with.  Try to stay calm.  

Answer 3

Tell her that you love her very much,But there are house rules she needs to know about and then tell her what you and your room mate  expect from her. Tell her that you want to get a long with her and have her stay with you but she has to respect your wishes. Be polite and let her know how much you really love her and care about her welfare.  Good luck!!  It takes alot of patience living with a parent.  GOOD LUCK !!!!  I am proud of you for taking her in and trying to take care of her.!!

Answer 4

just  tell thems

Answer 5

You don't. It sounds to me like your mother is manipulating you. You have already shown that you are a good son by letting her stay with you when she was sick. How is her health now? Irregardless, it is yoyr apartment, she pays no rent, you decide the rules and standereds that apply. If she wants to move out, let her. It would be better for your relationship in the long run. I doubt that your mother would go live on the streets.  

Answer 6

Let her go.  She is playing the guilt trip.  Remind her that this is your house, your rules, and if she doesn't like it, leave.  Did you have to follow her rules when you lived in her house?  I bet you did.  She is just trying to get your goat.  She wants you to beg her to stay there and you are a fool if you do.  I have played that game with my mother over and over, but no more.  Don't give in to her or she will have her own way, and you will be miserable.  

Answer 7

she shouldnt threaten you....shes trying to pulla guilt trip on you....you have to stand up for yourself and be strong you pay the bills and make the rules....thats how it was whn you grew up right??? its the same way now...she either has to respect it....or do what shes doing now and that is to leave....but let her know you love her and want her to stay...,but dopnt let her walk all over you....be strong

Answer 8

Same respect you gave her gorwing up, she should give to you. Sounds like she has depression and may need some sort of mecidine, if she isn't already on anything. If she is, have her dr. adjust the dosage, it may not be the right amount. Also tell her "My house, my rules" and if need to use tough love on her and tell her bye. Bet she get's a block or two away before she realizes what happened.  

Answer 9

she is living off of you, guilt tripping you into begging her stay. you take her to the nearest shelter. tell her to get a job, get her own place to live.