Problems with the in-laws?

Question

I have been married with my husband for 10 years and have never had a problem with the in-laws until 8 months ago when our daughter was born. Since them they have kept there distance and have seen her a total of 15 times. I think this is disgusting and it is made worse by the fact that they see there Grandson at least every 2nd day. This dosn't affect my daughter in any way, simple answer to that is because she dosn't know them, but i would like to know there reason for behaving this way towards us. Should i ask them? My husband dosn't seem to care weather they see her or not (I find this strange also). Has anyone ever had a similar problem.

Answer 1

The next time you see your in-laws, talk to your MIL. Say, "We would really love it if you would spend more time with the baby. She loves her Grandma and Grandpa and misses you when you're not around." Maybe you could encourage them to take her overnight now and then so you and hubby can get some space.

If this doesn't work, just leave well enough alone. They do have enough contact that your daughter will know them as she gets older. If you try to force it, you'll just create problems. Not worth it. I'm sure your daughter has lots of people who dote on her.

Answer 2

I'm sure your husband does care and it does hurt him, but men don't like to show their feelings.   When he feels like talking about it he will do it.  Don't ask him any questions.  Don't talk to your in-laws about it.  I wouldn't .  Why should it affect you and your daughter.  As long as she has you and your husband, that is enough. Some grandparents are more loving than others.   Don't let it get to you.  Good Luck.

Answer 3

Yeah I would have a problem with it too. My sister in law had a baby recently and my in laws spend all kinds of time with her son, but they never call wanting to see my son, the only time they see him, is if we ask if they will watch him. It kinda upsets me, but I try not to let it bother me too much :(

Answer 4

yeah i hated my grandmother when she did this to me... she favored my cousins and seemed like she hated me.. make sure they dont play favorites bc this will affect the child later in life when they understand what is going on. or better yet just dont bother with them you husband doesnt seem to care neither should you. have your parents visit as often as possible.