Project about adoption...?

Question

What are good and bad things about adopting a child, and what are some problems that may occur later on...?

Answer 1

Ok, so I was adopted, however I remember a lot.  I was in an abusive home both sexually and physically.  I was finally removed and placed into foster care where things were so much better in the beginning.  I was then adopted by my foster family.  Once I was adopted that is when things started to change.  I love my adopted parents as good as things were they weren't what they should have been.  Things turned south after I was adopted because I pretty much got turned into their B*tch after I was adopted.  And then to top it off after I finally got up enough nerve to stand up for myself I got kicked out at the age of 17 because I was supposedly out of control.  Keep in mind I was president of student counsel, I was in the national honor society, graduated tenth in my class, was on the youth advisory counsel, yet I was out of control.  So yes there are good things about being adopted because the physical and sexual abuse stopped but the bad thing about my adoption was that they mental abuse started.

Answer 2

I don't personally think Yahoo Answers is the right place to do a project...

Google Adoption, look at the varying 3 sides of Adoption....

Adoption should only be for Orphans or abused children, or those in other bad situations.

Adoption should NOT be for birth control.

There really isnt anything good about adoption Unless you happen to be the adoptive parent, and some *grateful* adoptees...who havent come out of the fog yet....EXCEPT of course for orphans and abused children..

But really do you think that anything good can come from removing a child from its mother ? from its roots ? from its surroundings ? and placing it with someone completely foreign to it?

Ask yourself this would you like to suddenly be removed from your parents. family. friends, school, and NEVER EVER Seen them again ?

There are many many problems that occur later on in life

Have a look through some of the adoption blogs from the birth mothers view point of the adoptees view point. that will give you some indication of the problems that occur later on

Answer 3

Adoption is an emotionally charged issue and you'll find people with strong feelings running along the entire spectrum.  I can speak to my experience as an adoptive parent, even though that will immediately be discounted by some people.  But I think you're looking for as many different experiences and opinions as possible.

We adopted two school age children from overseas.  Their adjustment period, moving from a war-torn, poverty-stricken, third world country to pretty much middle-class America, was smoother than we had any right to expect.  We were prepared for much more adjustment issues than we actually encountered.  I'm not saying that there are not more issues forthcoming: my daughter witnessed things in her home country that no child should ever have to witness.  And sooner or later, we may need to look into PTSD counseling for her.  But we've spoken with child trauma counselors and know the signs to watch for, so we know when it's time to get professional intervention.  Fortunately, my son was too young to remember most of the civil war, but we are watchful for signs of PTSD in him as well.  

Whether it is the resliance of the individual children, or the idea that the war (and everything that went along with it) was considered the normal course of life, or if signs will creep up later on, I don't know.  We play it by ear ( we do that a lot), pay attention to our children and take our cues from them.  If it comes up that they need professional intervention, everything is already prepared.

I could write a book on the importance of addressing cultural needs, educational needs, racial identity, pride and education about their country of origin.  But suffice it to say that responsible parents of international adopted children do quite a LOT to address all of these things.  There are certainly parents of international adopted children that expect their children to pretty much forget about where they came from, which isn't right.  Others I know completely isolate their families so that the children don't have the tools to survive in American culture.  That's not right either.  The point of all of this is giving the children the tools to be happy, healthy, responsible adults and productive members of society, while at the same time keeping their ethnic pride and pride in their culture and land of birth alive.  It's a daunting thing and certainly not for everyone.

If there are more specifics, feel free to email me from my profile.

Answer 4

my cousin was adopted ...my aunt an mom where very close sisters and after my mom had me an my little sister my aunt was crushed to find out that she could never have children of her own ! then years past an she decided to adopt ! i didnt know the whole story but i know that he was very welcomed an accepted in our family as one of our own he even looks like us ! surprisingly

my aunt whent to the adoption agency and found out that there where a few teen moms that where looking for adoptive parents for there children my aunt met all three girls two ended up keeping there child an the one girl (whom is the natural mother to my cousin Jake)...became good friends with my aunt an they decided that an OPEN adoption was great that way she was able to have the little boy she all ways wanted an the girl was able to get her life back on track! growing up with my cousin was great an i have never seen my aunt happier she all ways wanted to be a mom i wouldn't say that there is any bad things about it ...it was a family woven by the strings of hope love and unselfishness

Answer 5

Well I am grateful to be adopted. My birth mother was not in a good situation and could not support another child among other things. My adopted parents are my "real" parents and they did as good of a job as any parent could do. As a parent myself, I try to follow their examples on raising children. They adopted six of us.

Their can be cons, such as I don't know any adopted child who hasn't dealt with some abandonment issues. I personally feel as if a part of myself is "shadowed" for lack of a better word. I would like to have the chance to meet my biological family. I was told that I had other siblings and it would be nice to meet them. I honestly don't know if they even know about me, though. I often wonder if their is anyone "out there" that looks or acts like me. I would love the oppurtunity to tell my biological parents thank you for making the hard choice that they made.

I have an older sister who has met and is in close contact with her biological family and she is still grateful that she was adopted, still. Not that she doesn't love her bio. family, she does, but she knows that her life would have been much different if they hadn't given her in adoption to our parents.

She was a private adoption, one brother was adopted through the welfare system as his mother was a drug addict, I was put up for adoption before birth through the welfare system and then my other three siblings are adopted through orphanages.

Another problem is that since most states advocate or force closed adoptees don't know their medical histories. This can be very dangerous. A friend of the family's lost a child because they did not know the father's medical history so they didn't know he carried a rare genetic condition. If his medical history was known they could have saved the child's life.

Even though the odds are extremely slim, I worried that I might have been related to my husband before we were married. He is from the town I was born in. I recently saw on the news where a newlywed couple found out that they were actually brother and sister. How tragic and how easily preventable if open adoptions were the norm!