Promise ring issue need some advice?

Question

my boyfriend and i been dating for 5months on and off..so today he decides to give me a promise ring. come to find out it was once his ex's. when i found this out i gave i back to him and i dint tell him why because he doesn't know that i know. I love him to death but should i take the ring back?

oh yea this is how i found out i went thru his phone yeah i know i am a nosy girl friend

Answer 1

I think you did the right thing. You should however tell him that you know he gave it to his ex and you don't want second hand rings. You don't have to tell him how you know. Good for you for respecting yourself enough that you didn't settle.  

Answer 2

He’s a cheap ***!... he gave you his ex girlfriends ring... the very ring she wore while they were going out the same ring she wore when their relationship went down the toilet...

The same ring he gave you!

He shouldn’t care if you went through his phone.. you in a " 5month on and off" relationship and you love each other... man I can see you two loving each other forever... NOT!

Move on!

Answer 3

Going through your boyfriend's phone is a no-no, strictly a teenage move. If you don't trust him, you can't really love him, can you? You've only been together for 5 months... on and off. That's not really enough time to make a serious commitment anyway.

I'd be honest with him now. Tell him that you have a few trust issues, and found out(don't tell him how) that the ring belonged to his ex(what did he do, take it back from her or did she give it back, and WHY?). Tell him that that ring represents a failed relationship, and carries a lot of negative energy. If you still want to be Promised, you need your own ring.

Answer 4

not much on promises is he????

Answer 5

I think you did the right thing.. and a promise ring is really soon after 5 months on and off... are you sure it's not lust or infatuation?

Answer 6

Sounds like he hands out Promises all willy nilly

Answer 7

no... don't take the ring.  i'd consider giving him up, as well.

Answer 8

That ring was meant for someone else.  He is with you now.  He needs to get another ring for you.  You did the right thing.

Answer 9

um he is that cheap to give u a ring that was meant for another person dont take it back and if he realy wanted to be with u y would he give u a used ring ask urself do u rlly want to be with him fooooooooooorever or can u find someone better  

Answer 10

h**l no. if he asks why you dont want it say you do, but one that has only gone on your finger-not some ex girlfriends