Promise ring????????????????????

Question

Ok, I'm 21 any my boyfriend is 22, almost 23. We've been dating for 6 months now, and we both feel that this is "it." He wants to get me a promise ring. This way, everyone will know I'm taken. Is this normal for people to do, or do you think promise rings are dumb. I don't want diamonds because I feel like those should be saved for marriage, but I want something simple and elegant. I guess my question is, should I accept the ring as a promise ring or should I want an engagement ring? I'm not materialistic or anything, and I really wouldn't mind a promise ring, I just don't know if it's normal I guess.

Answer 1

eh, promise rings ARE kind of silly in my opinion. some of my closest friends have had them though so it's not like you'd be doing somthing foreign or somthing. i'd be afraid you'd hurt his feelings though if you turned it down. you could just tell him you'd rather save all rings for engagement time. if not just make sure he gets you what you want not somthing outragously expensive or somthing.  

Answer 2

Promise rings are pretty common now-a-days, but before you accept it, think about all that they entail.  You are giving a PROMISE to be faithful to him and only him.  You've only been dating for six months; that isn't a very long time to know for sure that he is the one for you.

I think you should give it a little longer before you decide to accept a promise ring from your boyfriend, but if you can't wait any longer, make sure you think about it completely.  Don't go for an engagement ring yet; you are not ready after only six months together.

Answer 3

Normal is relative.

Why do you need a ring to keep you interested and together? How about the mere knowledge that you two are together? How about good communication and a healthy relationship? Why a ring as a symbol that youa re taken? It is just something else he has to spend money on.

Just be together. Enjoy yourselves. That is all.  

Answer 4

That way everyone will know that you are taken??

If a man told me that, I would tell him to f-off and then go out with his best friend.

Answer 5

What about a claddagh ring?

The Claddagh's distinctive design features two hands clasping a heart, and usually surmounted by a crown. The elements of this symbol are often said to correspond to the qualities of love (the heart), friendship (the hands), and loyalty (the crown). The expression which was associated with these symbols in the giving of the ring was: "With my hands I give you my heart, and crown it with my love."

The way that a Claddagh ring is worn on the hand is usually intended to convey the wearer's romantic availability, or lack thereof. Traditionally, if the ring is on the right hand with the design facing outward and away from the body, this indicates that the person wearing the ring is not in any serious relationship, and may in fact be single and looking for a relationship. When worn on the right hand but with the design facing inward toward the body, this indicates the person wearing the ring is in a relationship, or that "someone has captured their heart". A Claddagh worn on the left hand ring finger, facing outward away from the body, generally indicates that the wearer is engaged. When the ring is on the left hand ring finger and facing inward toward the body, it generally means that the person wearing the ring is married.

Answer 6

Save the engagement ring until you're ready to start planning a wedding.

My boyfriend got me a promise ring too. If you do get one with diamonds, make sure they're small and a few of them (that way it won't look like a traditional engagement ring).

I got my birthstone with two diamonds on the side. I've also heard of girls getting a ring with their birthstone and the bf's birthstone beside it. (If the colours match of course).

It's pretty common these days but not required. Just wear it on your right hand - keep the left one free for when the special day comes.

My Mom also told me that Opal Rings are traditionally promise rings. They should only be given to you from a man you love and as long as the opal never cracks it means your love will last.

Answer 7

I had never heard of promise rings (or, at least I thought they belonged in the 1950s) until one of my fiance's friends gave one to his girlfriend that he was supposedly serious about. About a year later, they were kaput, and she never gave the ring back, and he was out almost $1,000.

I think they're kind of silly. Many serious couples walk around without rings on their finger and it's fine. If someone's interested in you, just tell them that you're in love with your boyfriend. That's what I did when I would get hit on before I was engaged.

I think you guys should just wait for the actual engagement ring. A promise ring, then an engagement ring, THEN a wedding ring? Isn't that a bit much?

Just enjoy the love that you have for each other now. That should be enough. If he wants to give you a token of his love for you, then he can get you a necklace or a bracelet or something, and vice versa.

Answer 8

Just accept the promise ring. For one it is a romantic reminder of the beginning of your relationship and the promise of the future that you'll enjoy for years to come. Also, the promise ring is one you can pick out together and make a date out of it, unlike engagement rings which the man usually picks.

If he was really and truly ready to marry you, he likely would have asked by now. Don't rush and don't make him feel inadequate for not skipping to engagement.