Promised to marry Liz but I still love someone else?

Question

Used Liz to get out of a marriage. Now separated and living with her but my heart is still with Nicki. How do I resolve this complete mess?

Answer 1

you obviously aren't ready for marriage to anyone. You need to grow up  

Answer 2

Leave both and clear your head for a while. Figure out what you really want before making a life altering decision.

Answer 3

remember why u left Nicki and focus on that, call it off with liz until you have figured out what you really want-take some time just for you

Answer 4

You have to be honest...period. No matter what the cost. The only way to get things right is to be honest with both of the women.

Answer 5

what ever

Answer 6

You are a troll.  You and 'Liz' deserve each other.  Guess you found out that the grass isn't always greener?  I pray Nicki doesn't take you back.

Answer 7

hi welcome to the real world, when you mess around with women's affections this way can you really not understand why it gets up and bites you. Perhaps you will now think twice before doing anything like this again. Sorry I really do not have any sympathy for you.

Answer 8

Follow your heart, life is too short, not to!  

Answer 9

hhMm..follow what your heart tells you to do. if u really love Nick then go for it, that's if Nick loves you too, because it's hard if you are the only one loving. Then tell Liz the truth as soon as possible. if Liz really loves you..she will set you free.

Answer 10

Yeah, you sound confused to be with either. Be on your own and really figure out what you want. You can't go back and forth here. These are women you're dealing with and it's not fair to play with their emotions. So get your head straight and figure out what you want. You're not being fair to either woman.  

Answer 11

DIFFICULT!

.. follow your heart.. if your heart is with Nicki, but you marry Liz.. if could lead to horrible things: a failed marriage, cheating with Nicki just to be with her again, lying, etc.

I'd say- tell Liz that you can't get over Nicki, and you want to go back and see if you can make things work. But BEFORE you do that, talk to Nicki & see if she's willing to work things out. It would be horrible if you left Liz & then you found out Nicki didn't want you.

good luck~

Answer 12

You are in a pickle.Tell Liz tht you are sorry,but you don't love her and hence can't marry her. I don't think Nicki will take you back unless she's very forgiving. You can try,however. Henceforth,please think twice about the pros and cons before doing something drastic.See,what a mess you created for yourself. Hope this serves as a lesson for the rest of your life.