Proof My Parents Are Cheating On Each Other..But?

Question

Well , my Dad has admitted he is trying to get another girlfriend , and my Mom has been found going out with another man at weekends etc

my Dad knows that my Mom is cheating although she hasnt admitted it to me or my Dad , but my Mom dosent know that my Dad is trying for another girlfriend

they won't get divorced even though i have suggested it to both of them , it's only me and them that live here but they sleep in seperate rooms and don't talk to each other and won't even be in the same room as the other

it dosen't really bother me any more because it's there business just not sure what to do

any advice?

Answer 1

tell them that they need to talk or your moving out. "kinda like...its me or talk"

Answer 2

Its much easier to tell someone to get a divorce than it is for a couple who have invested in a life together. Ever heard the phrase "Its cheaper to keep her"? A divorce will require the divvying up of assets, savings and friends. A custody battle and setting up new lives.

Don't worry about their relationship, it has nothing to do with you and I'm sure they love you dearly.  

Answer 3

your handling the situation very well,my advice would just go with the flow.sit your parents down and talk about it,make sure you find the right way to do it,go around anything that might cause the conflict...

Answer 4

just watch pokemon

Answer 5

Your parents have some issues to work out, but they seem not to want to do that. It is not any of  your concern.  Learn from their mistakes, do not follow their bad morals.  For you.... right now it would be very stressful to live in that home. They do not even want to communicate with you about it.   Try to stay focused on what your goals are, what you want to do with your life now. You should talk to someone to help you. When the time is right,move out, get a job, and live your life. Get to some counseling for yourself. Try to not let it get to you and I know that must be hard to do.  

Answer 6

first off how old are you?  I just wanted to know because you seem to be taking this quite well. honestly, keep doing what you are doing. if what is happening between them makes no difference to them (and you are really NOT bothered by it) then it shouldn't matter because its keeping the peace. if it bothers you even somewhat then you need to sit down with them and tell them how YOU feel. it seems like they only care about themselves and what makes them happy and not at all about your feelings. but you should let those feelings be known. good luck!

Answer 7

Get out of that house ASAP.  Do well in school so you can go to a college far away from their clutches and make enough money so you can move out.  And see a counselor since this environment sounds awful.

Edit: Wow, for a 16 year old you're taking this well, but I'm sorry because this situation just sucks.  DO WELL IN SCHOOL.  I'm not trying to be obnoxious with that, but do as well as you can because you need to break out of prison.

Answer 8

I hope you´re older than a teen because what you´re parents are doin, besides being so wrong and sinful, it could be so damaging to you. But you sound like you´re actually used to seeing them act like this and open about both their relationships outside the home. All I can tell you is that what your parents are doing, is not the best example and although you seem normal about it, this is really not normal at all, and it shouldn´t be. So please take this as an example of what you DON´T want in your own marriage. You don´t want your children to deal with such unstable parents and pretending it´s all ok. Children get damaged by behaviors like these and it´s sad to watch them grow falling in the same steps as their parents.

If they don´t love each other anymore and it´s clear they don´t, and they want to date other people fine, but at least talk it out honestly and clearly for your sake and their own. At least when everything is out in the open you don´t have to be assuming and pretending.

So just akcnowledge that this is not right and that you don´t want to fall into this anytime when you get married.

Answer 9

It's a shame, but there is nothing you can do.  If you know they are cheating on each other, then they know it also.  If you told them both you know and it didn't change anything, then they don't care much about you either.  sorry to tell you that.  Start making the best life for yourself you can, pal and remember that parents are just people and people treat each other like sh**.  good luck.

Answer 10

m8 ure the only thing stopping them breaking up, they both love u and dont want 2 b apart from u, so ure going into 6th form or collage next year then, i dont no how 2 fix it but i hope som1 can cus with important qualifications coming up u need 2 b completly focused on them not wot ure parents r up 2, my mum and dad split up wen i was 5 im now 15, going in2 y11, both my parents r remarried but my step mum is a f*cking c*nt, gud job i dont live with my dad

Answer 11

If it doesn't bother you and they are already living as if they aren't together, then let it be. It sounds like marriage is just a word to them now. I don't think it's cheating if neither of them care.

Answer 12

you have to let them sort it out. there's nothing you can really do about it sorry

Answer 13

Just stay neutral and don't take sides with either parent.  There's nothing you can do so let them work it out between the two of them.  Just remember that this is NOT a normal marriage or relationship and you should never accept a relationship like theirs.

Answer 14

That is so messed man!

You can't really control your parents actions, but maybe you should sit down with each of them at a separate time and ask them to explain what the h**l is up, and get them to tell you why they are doing what they are doing!  

Answer 15

Leave to them, I know it hurts you to see them acting this way but this is there life and it sounds that you have a good head on you shoulders so stay out of it and it could also be mid life crisis. Good luck.