Proper wording on wedding invitation when the brides parents along with the couple are paying for the wedding?

Question

I cannot find an answer to the inviation wording that matches the scenario I am in. Can anyone help?

Answer 1

My fiance are getting married in two months...we are mostly paying for our own wedding...his parents gave us a little bit of money. Our invitations have only our names on them...not either of our parents.

Answer 2

I'm not sure what the first two answerers are talking about, but I understand what your situation is because both sets of parents are helping us pay, but we're footing the majority of the bill.

It should go something like this:

Bride and groom

together with their parents

Bride's parents

and

grooms parents

request the your presence as they celebrate their marriage ...

And then however you want to word it from there. That's how we're doing ours.

I hope that helps. Happy planning, and congratulations!

Answer 3

I'm not sure why you would need to put that on the invitation...?

Maybe it's me, but it seems a little tacky to mention who's financing the wedding. An invitation doesn't require that info, to my knowledge.  

Answer 4

You wouldn't word in the invatations that the bride's parents are paying as well, that goes in the program.

Here is an example of what your invatation could say though:

Ms.________ ________

Daughter of Mr. _______ and Mrs.________ ________

and

Mr. _________ _________

Son of Mr._______and Mrs___________

Are finally tying the knot! Come join the joyus celebration on __________ __________ ________, ________. The ceremony will take place at _____________ at ____:____  ____ and the reception will take place at _________ at ______:_______ ____. Please RSVP by ________ ________ __________.

Good luck and congrats.

Answer 5

Just use a traditional wording:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter

Sarah Elizabeth

to

William Robert Jones

son of Mr. and Mrs. Franklin Jones...

and then give the details of the date, time, and location.

Your guests don't need to know that you and your fiance are paying for part of the wedding. It's perfectly appropriate for the invitation to come from the bride's parents.

If you're looking for something a little less formal, use the following:

Sarah Elizabeth Smith and William Robert Jones

together with their families

invite you to celebrate their marriage...

(date time location etc)

Answer 6

Actually, technically (etiquette and traditionally) speaking, only the brides' parents are supposed to be on the wedding invitation.  They are giving their daughter away, and this has nothing to do with finances.  If you are pointing that out, it should go on the reception card.  That's what I learned when shopping for my invitations.

That being said, I didn't like that option.  I agree with the poster who said that the monetary contributions should not have any effect on the wording of the invitations.  You should mention all parents or none.

Mr and Mrs Jonathan Smith

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter,

Jane Smith

to

Jonathan Doe

son of Mr and Mrs Robert Doe

Mr Jonathan Smith

and Ms Mary Jones

invite you to witness the union

of their daughter

Jane Smith

to

Jonathan Doe

son of Mr and Mrs Robert Doe

and Mr and Mrs James Jones

Together with their parents,

Jane Smith

and

Jonathan Doe

announce their marriage...

Jane Smith and Jonathan Doe

together with their parents (or families)

Answer 7

Who is paying for what is reflected in theater programs, not wedding invitations. This is a private matter and your goal should be to ensure that the invitations do NOT reveal who is paying for what.

I like the traditional passive voice format with modest edits to fit our changing world.

The pleasure of your company (or honour of your presence) is requested

At a small dance (or BBQ or tea or pancake supper or whatever) to celebrate the marriage of

Jill Jones, daughter of

Brenda Jones Newman

Harrold Jones, and step daughter of

Lilly Oldman Jones, to

Bill Bones, son of

Bob and Betty Bones

on Saturday ...

I like this format because it gives mention to ALL the parents AND because it leaves "Nosy Parkers" totally in the dark about private matters like who is paying for what.

Answer 8

It doesn't matter who is paying for the wedding, you use both sets of parents' names simply out of respect -

Lisa Marie,

daughter of Frank and Helen Collins

and

Mark Henry,

son of William and Lois Biggins,

request the honour of your presence....