Pros & Cons of Pleasing people?

Question

I wanted to know, what are the pros and cons of pleasing people,

What makes someone go out of there way, to becoming a people pleaser.

What do you think is the positive and negative sides of this sort of personality,

how does this effect a person, what does it make him/her feel like, or seem like in there eyes, and in the eyes of others.

give me a few good examples,

i am looking for honest and intelligent answers

Answer 1

Being a people pleaser will make others like you, but then people might think of you as a push over and can get you to do favors for them.  Depending on the confidence level of the people pleaser, this could be fine with them, if not they might feel like they're being pushed around all the time.  In which, case I don't understand why they would remain a people pleaser.

For example, if you were in a work place, and you always tried to make your coworkers and customers happy, you'd do little favors for them all the  time, then they just keep thinking you'll be happy to do them and the favors pile up into big favors and you can lose track of what you're doing and customers that know you will try to get you to give them free stuff or something.

Answer 2

the pros (of those people pleaser) is that they know what makes people be pleased (as a jester, singer or dancer or everything)

the cons is that they feel those people know them as they know the people. so they always appear overreactingly active around the people (with the thought that the people will please them by such activities)  

Answer 3

Pros of People Pleasing

- You feel as though you have an impact on others

- You will never go without someone to talk with

- People will always come to you when they want something

- People think of you as being a 'nice' person

Cons of People Pleasing

- You will feel that no one really listens to your troubles

- You find that you are being used a lot

- People may not trust you to tell the truth

- People may not be there for you in your time of need

Answer 4

i like pleasing people to a certain point where you say no. for me, pleasing people gives me immense satisfaction. to know i have made someones day better. that being said, i don't grovel up to people. i like helping people and i dont see that as a negative.  

Answer 5

I used to be a people pleaser, i would go out of my way to be sensitive of other peoples feelings and try to be helpful and understanding to everyone, i think it was because i thought if i did that then that would make me popular.

In some ways its a good thing, you make a difference to peoples lives and it can make you feel good, knowing you have touched a person in a positive way..

in other ways, you sacrifice your own self worth, people being as they are, will exploit it, and use you.. as what happened to me.

Because of this, i feel slightly disillusioned with people... to be perfectly honest.

Answer 6

I learned the hard way that you cannot please everyone.  I tried so hard to wear the clothes and act like my classmates wanted just to have friends that I never figured out who I was.  Plus I never made any friends.

I spent years in and out of mental hospitals as a result.  Now I am much happier doing the things I like to do and if makes people happy it is a bonus.

Don't waste your life trying to accomplish what is not possible.