Protective Older Brother?

Question

I have an older brother who is 16 and Im 13. My school is kindergarten, elementary, middle and high school together so we go to the same school and he is constantly watching me and asking me about the guys I hang out with. I have a friend who is 16 but he is only a friend and the other day we were talking and then we play around and then my brother walks by and that night the whole conversation at dinner was about the guy.

Why do older brothers act like this?

Id appreciate answers from people who have the same problem as me or from older brothers who are also protective.

Answer 1

omg my older brother was always doing this to me trying to watch my back i had to do everything on the down low as to why he acts like this it think its cuz hes older and he felt he had the right to do this to me we are older now and i really don't have a relationship with him due to the fact that he still has the need to talk about my life with everyone except me and I'm grown now and don't appreciate him being so arrogant  

Answer 2

my brother is 16 and I'm 14 and he will beat up people who are mean to me or anything he's REALLY protective and he hates it if I hold boys hands or anything and it gets SO DANG annoying I wish he'd leave me alone a lot of the time but once I almost got raped with two of my girlfriends and I wa praying I'd had my older brother there for me. But it gets out of hand sometimes I think. Oh well. I guess that's how it is. It gets annoying. but comes in handy. =)

Answer 3

He is jealous because he is not around girls like your friends are.

Tell him to make more girl friends and then he will understand.

Answer 4

Brother is protective because he knows how teenage boys think. What they want. And usually, it's something that big brothers don't want them doing with their little sister.

Be glad he cares enough to watch out for ya, it'll keep the guys that KNOW they aren't good enough for ya away.. and when brother likes someone you do hang out with or date.. you'll know it's cause you've found yourself a really good guy!

Answer 5

Just be thankful you have a older brother who cares, one day you will appreciate that he does...Trust me on this i know exactly what your going through...i have 3 older brothers.....and although they drove me crazy in my teens, i wouldn't trade them for anything ...all he is doing is looking out for you the best way he knows how to.

Answer 6

I've been there before. My brother is two years older than I am and all through elementary, middle and high school it felt like I had a body guard. Every time I would tell him to stop he would tell me that as an older brother he had the responsibility to protect me. Now that I am married and I look back on all the things he did and in a way it was good. He protected me from certain guys that were in it for just one thing. He did allow me to make some of my own mistakes but there he was to always back me up when I needed him. At this point in time it may seem like too much but one day you will look back and realize that he only did it because he loved you and didn't want you to get hurt.

Answer 7

don't look at his actions as a bad thing as all of the older boys know that if they do you wrong , you have a big brother that will be in their face for you and will protect you.

I'd say the you are lucky to have him there for you.

Answer 8

I wish my brother was more protective!! Whenever someone makes fun of me to him he just laughs. Well i have two brothers and my other brother is alot nicer :D Be thankful your brother does beat you up like mine sometimes O__o

Answer 9

I know my brother is 18 and I am 16, he is the same way. He just wants to protect you be thankful <3 Your brother loves you. It's kind of weird why he cares about the guys you hang out. But he is probably thinking oh whats a 16 year old wanting to hang out with a 13 year old. Just think 16 is grade 11, 13 is grade 8. Kind of weird to me. As long as your guy friend doesn't have other motives. Your brother also knows how 16 year old guy act and how they can charm any younger girl he just wants to protect.