Psychological issues, born with or was it his mother?

Question

My partner has some psychological issues. He gets in moods where he suffers anxiety and cant relax or chill. He even had years off work at one stage as he just could not cope. Anyway I have been with him for 7 years now, and I do see the occasional outbreak, but I know just to allow him to deal with his own way. He is a loving partner at most times and also a great daddy to our children, So my question isnt about him really. Its about what his mother said. Now just keep in mind, this lady is loopy!! She has issues herself but wont admit to them. She has 8 children and 15 grandchildren, and all of them hate her besides my partner and our kids. She really is that bad.

Anyways she says that my partner was born with psychological issues as she apparently (dont know what to believe as she lies that she has cancer and other stuff) nearly bleed to death while giving birth to him. She also says that she had to keep him alive for the first 10 years of his life. Now do you think its possible that my partner could have been born with psychological issues? I thought that the parent makes the child grow up to the person they are when adults. I would love some opinions on the matter :)

many thanks

Answer 1

it is possible for a person to be born with psychological issues or the predisposition for them especially if it runs in their family- You cant really know if that is the case with your husband since his mother is a very unreliable source of information so, its best to just move forward from where you are now to do what is best for him & your family-

best of luck to you-

Answer 2

First, as long as his occasional "outbreak" doesn't include harming you, it seems as though he is stable enough to be a good father to your children, regardless of his moods. Anxiety or depression might cause his mother to shrug it off as something he was born with, rather than admit that she had a hand in exacerbating his problem when he was young. She sounds to me as if she is hoping to avoid any blame for how she parented him. He may be predisposed to anxiety (I inherited it from my dad) and it is something you can surely work with!

What about the comment his mother made that she had to keep him alive for the first 10 years of his life? Did he have an illness and has he discussed and verified this with you?

How does your partner stand in the birth order? Was he the baby of the family of 8? My youngest brother was the last of 7 kids, and he had the roughest time of it because it seems my parents had run out of patience by the time they got to number 7! I was always protective of my youngest brother. Birth order can mean a lot in larger families!

Answer 3

That's a tough one.  I know how your partner feels as I also suffer from depression and anxiety.  But unlike your partner I had a great childhood with a close and loving family.  So, I guess my opinion is, psychological issues will probably always have been there (born with) but have probably been exacerbated by the unbalanced mother.  

Answer 4

it's possible for him to be born like that but why does it matter? If you love him you'd be taing care of him and ignore what that lady says.

Get him the medications and live like the fullest and be one big happy family.

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