Punishment question?

Question

What type of punishment would you give your 5 year old that said a swear word? I know its not really that major, but I want him to understand that that is not OK and not to do it again.

Answer 1

give him a warnning n tell him if he does it again that ur going to call the mothman to come n get him and take him away

Answer 2

Old skool: Wash the mouth out with soap.

Answer 3

Tell him that god will get mad, and what he said was a really offensive word. If he says it again give him time out, and take his favorite toy away for a week.

Answer 4

spanking

Answer 5

Dont make a MAJOR deal about it because he could turn it into an attention- seeing behavior. ( I got a cool reaction out of mom, let's see what she would do if I say @%&# ).  Simply let him know it is not acceptable language and move on. Sometimes we as parents over-react to children just being kids.  My 6 year old told our pastor that his "daddy lost the biggest contract in his whole goddam life".  Talk about embarrassment!

Answer 6

Be very very serious and stern and look him in the eye.  Tell him you don't ever want to hear that word again.  Don't be mean, but act very serious about it.  Warn him that if he says it again, his toy will be taken away.  If he says it again, do the same thing, but take away the toy for a few days to a week.  If he says it again, take away TV for a few days to a week.  Keep doing these punishments, taking away dessert, computer, play dates, etc.  If he says it after the third or fourth punishment, give him a 15 or 20 minute time-out, facing the wall.

Don't wash his mouth out with soap, as that is very bad for him.  In the news about a year ago, a little kid died because his mother washed his mouth out with soap after he cursed.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

I wouldn't make a big deal about it. The bigger deal you make the more is builds up in his mind. Let him know you dont want him to talk like that and go on with your life. No punishment required.Be sure your mouth is clean around him.

Punishment is extreme. He is going to hear foul language his whole life. You just point out it is inappropriate. I am sure there are other things he isn't allowed to do that you don't punish him for? Don't be a control freak.

Answer 8

while they but chile in my mouth

Answer 9

u should tell him/her its a bad word and take away his favorite thing to play with for 3 days or so. dont hit him because when he grows up he might hit his child or wife when do something wrong.

Answer 10

Talk to him and tell him that you don't want to hear those words out of his mouth again.  If he keeps on doing it them you will have to punish him.  Take away a game or something.

Answer 11

I wouldn't make a major issue out of it as he/she probably doesn't know the meaning. But I would let them know it's inappropriate and that it is not allowed.

Answer 12

I totally agree with *chattymom*.

Answer 13

Does he know it's bad? If he doesn't, just ignore it. The rise they get out of cussing is the rise they get out of you. Don't make it a big deal. Just tell him it's not a word good people use. It's not a word people who *like cookies* use.

That will get him!

Answer 14

I would tell him you dont say that word its naughty and swat his bottom

Answer 15

punish him as regular. most parents do that, so don't feel as if your the only mom on the block punishing your child for swearing. also he's 5 if you don't act fast he may think that he can do anything he wants.

Answer 16

TALK WITH him and tell him next time no candy for a week and if he does it again a little spanking will do but dont give him candy .......

Answer 17

I WOULD NEVER LAY A HAND ON A CHILD!!!! i think that is wrong on sooooo many levels. i like when my parents just sit me down and have a nice chat with me about it. i HATE when parents yell at you or spank you so i would just say to sit them down and say okay now you know what you did was wrong and just tell them how it is and if they do it again they will have something taken away from them for a little bit. i know i love my horse and if i ever did anything bad i wouldnt be able to ride him for about a week. so maybe do something like that but i would never spank or yell at a kid that is just bad parenting.

p.s. NEVER PUT SOAP IN A CHILDS MOUTH not even pepper or anything it is bad for their body and it could also kill them. it hurts but the kid might think oh i will just have that done all the time so they will do it again and dont be too rough but you still want to get the point across that it is bad or he will think it is okay!

I hope i helped! need any more help just contact me!

Answer 18

I wouldn't punish.  I would teach.  Tell him why he shouldn't say that word, and be honest.  I would try something like "That word makes people feel sad, is something mean, and hurts feelings.  There are other words that you can say instead, but that word is one that you can't say."  The idea is to teach him that he shouldn't use it because it can make mother people sad/hurt.  I'd ask him to think about a time that he had his feelings hurt and was sad, and tell him that he shouldn't want others to feel like that too.  Then I'd have him think of some things that he can do/say that make people smile and happy and tell him that he can say those things all he wants as long as he means them.  I'd ask him to check for his understanding what we just talked about, then I'd hold him to it.  He isn't allowed to say that word.

It isn't about punishing hoping that he'll learn that the word is bad because bad things happen to him when he says it.  All that accomplishes is teaching him to not get caught and to not say it because he doesn't want to get in trouble.  He won't be learning the real reasons not to say it.  It's about teaching him why.

Answer 19

When my boys used rude words they had a smacked bottom and they knew that they'd have another if they used them again.That nipped the problem in the bud.

When they were older I explained to them that I associated swearwords with violence (due to their Father) and that was why I simply would not allow such in my house and if they used them (even beneath their breath) it meant a punishment.

Edit : I agree with others - soap in the mouth is unhygeinic if not downright dangerous - a quick short,sharp smack to the bottom is far more effective (with an explaination as to why he has had it) and safe.

Answer 20

if its the first time tell them its a bad word

Answer 21

i would spank him and then take away all of his toys for a month you want to get the point that it is not okay while they are young

Answer 22

Just sit him down and explain to him that its bad, my five year old son said a swear word once and thats what I did and he never said it again

Answer 23

i would give him a time out .and take away a privelege.

Answer 24

It is not good for the child psychological, mental and emotional development if we punish them according to our rage.

The best thing to do is to tell them it is not good to swear and use harsh words. I know it is hard to apply or comply by them, But it is the painless and appropriate way to educate them rather to scar them with punishment that may affect their mental and emotional development.

In this stage, the child is like a sponge that absorb everything for their mental development. The child is like a plain canvas. It is up to you to color the canvas by giving them a suitable example anytime and anywhere with them to avoid the child from learning these swear words.

After all, it is we that founded these foul words dont'you think???

Last but not least, try not to punish them. It is so wrong to teach them a lesson. Try to be more diplomatic and understand the situation clearly.....  :)

Answer 25

If it were the first time he said it I would tell him in a firm voice that I don't like that word and it's not appropriate. I would tell him that if he says it again he will lose aprivilage or a favorite toy for a couple of days. Then I would leave it at that and not make a huge deal over it.

If it happened again or this was not the first time then I would follow through on what I said and take a favorite thing away for a couple of days and remind them that we don't say things like that and it won't be tolerated.

no need for harsh measures such as soap in the mouth, that's called barbaric/lazy parenting. There was a 7 yr old boy who died after getting soap in the mouth when he accidentally swollowed some and then he vomited it and aspirated it into his lungs. I guess his mom won't be hearing anymore swears from him...it's just not necessesary at all to go that far.