Put baby up for adoption??

Question

I've asked many questions about abortion recently, am 16 and 5 weeks pregnant i am really considering abortion however im just not sure. Adoption really worries me though, i think having carried my baby 9 months and have it lead infront of me how could i give it away?? Will i wonder the rest of my life, is he/she okay are they being brought up correctly?? any help on this one / advice. thanks

Answer 1

wow.  I know this is a hard choice.  You are 16 and if you couldn't and your family couldn't..check that option FIRST.  If there is someone in your family who is willing and able to take your baby..do this.  However if that is not the case, please don't abort this baby.  I know you think that you couldn't possibly give your baby to someone/stranger or whatever b/c of the guilt you will have and the hard time you'll have living your life wondering and worrying yourself too death.  You will have worse feelings  if you abort...you will still always wonder what this baby would've been like but you will not be able to find out!  b/c your child is dead.  At least give this kid a chance even if it's not with you.  This is the right thing to do..and you will feel good for doing this...(and bring another couple alot of joy)  at some point! but you could never feel good about aborting the baby. 

Answer 2

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for years. I am 27 years old. We would love to adopt but we don't have thousands of dollars to go through adoption agencies. I live in toledo, Oh. If you would like more info, please contact me at [e-mail]. Thanks,

Crystal

Answer 3

There are open adoptions if you are interested.  My husband and I wouldn't mind and open adoption.  Write letters and give you pictures.
Email me at whiterose2161979@hotmail.
Amanda

Answer 4

HI there. I am adopted and I adopted my son. I think adoption is a wonderful thing. yes its hard givig away a child not knowing what will happen to them growing up but you need to trust your instincts and do your research.most kids that are adopted though do grow up in a wonderful home. My birth mother is a crack addict and alcoholic and has never changed im gald she gave me away the day i was born. i was brought into a wonderful family and im so happy she gave me away. trust yourself and just make sure you ask lots of questions.good luck

Answer 5

I dont know your situation but please do not abort , there are many couples that would adopt your child if you took that path. You could do an open adoption where you stay involved in the child's life or you could keep the baby and raise it. If you would like to chat further i would be glad to listen. If you are considering adoption please let me know.
Best wishes
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Answer 6

7 years ago a mother like you gave my husband and I the best and most loving gift anyone could ever give, our son.  She realized she could no longer care for him and brought him to us.  We have a wondeful relationship with her, sharing pictures, visits and much more.  She does not regret her decision and is very pleased with how well he is doing in school and in life.  Please know that no one can make tis decision but you and it is a decision that will not only change your life but that of your babies.  We have wanted to add to our family for some time, if you decide that adoption is what you want for your baby, feel free to contact us, talk to several parents like us and when you find the ones who feel right to you you will know it.  
  To the mother with the twin boys please contact us, we would like to talk to you also, you are thinking about adoption and you apparently have made the decision that you want a better life for your babies, we would love to speak with you and talk over your situation.
    [e-mail]        765-480-8877    Diana

Answer 7

I  was given up for adoption when I was an infant. It was the most loving and unselfish thing my mother could have ever done for me. I was given such a gift and my life was forever changed. I was able to get a college education and be very successful. My family who adopted me were able to provide me with everything my mother wasn't able to because she was young. The most important thing in adoption is finding a couple who has a strong family, financially secure to offer your child and education and everything else they will ever need, and a house that has love beyond words to give!!!


I always knew I was adopted and every day I am so thankful and feel so blessed for the life she allowed me to have. I can only say that it is a hard thing to do, but I am proof that pure love of a birthmother can open doors for the future for their child.


My husband and I are now in the process of wanting to adopt. We have an amazing life and I want to give back, what was given to me. If I can help you in any way please let me know. I wish you the very best and if you ever want to talk you can contact me [e-mail]

Sincerely,

Kristin

Answer 8

You are going to hear many,many views on what you should do with your unborn baby. What you need to remember is this is your body and this is now your baby.  You may be only 5 weeks along but that is a real life growing inside of you.  You are already thinking ahead . . . saying how could you carry your child for 9 months, hold him/her and then give it away.  Think about that for a minute.  Think about what you just said and then think how it would make you feel, to know you had an abortion.  That you took the life of the child you just said you would not be able to give away once you looked at him/her.  Right now you can not see your baby's tiny little body growing inside of you, but it is! Would it not be better to give this child life, to let this child have a chance to live?  

I feel for you.  You have a huge decision to make and not an easy one that is for sure.  If you have an abortion, I know you will think about it every day for the rest of your life-asking yourself if you did the right thing, wondering what your baby might have looked liked, what he/she may have become. Plus you will have the guilt of knowing that you took his or her life. That is BIG!

Now, think a minute about adoption.  Yes, you will carry your child for 9 months.  Yes, if you so choose you can look at your baby and hold him/her once born.  Then yes, you can hand that baby over to a loving couple, whom you choose, and know that your baby will be well taken care of.  There are many, many couples out there who long to have a baby.  Your baby will be well cared for, provided for and loved.  Your baby will have a chance to grow and become something.  Yes, you may wonder about your child each day for the rest of your life.  You can however keep in contact with the family.  You can have pictures sent to you, you can even visit your child if you so wish.  Handing that baby over to another family will be very difficult for you!  You will cry, I am sure, you will have doubts, and you will wonder if you did make the right decision.  However, when you look back upon it in the future you would have the peace and the joy of knowing that you gave your child life and a loving home.

Another option, of course is keeping your baby.  I do not know what your relationship is with your parents, boyfriend, friends.  My baby sister had a baby last year.  She choose to keep her little girl.  She lives with my parents, she has Badger Care and is able to get the things she needs to care for the child.  She found a job and is slowly building up a savings account and taking over the responsibility of caring for her little girl.  She has the support system of family and friends.  If this is possible for you it may be your best choice.  As you say. . . how can you look at your baby and then give it away?  You do not have to if you do not want too.

I hope I have given you a lot to think about.  You have a very difficult decision to make.  Just remember that this is your body and this is your baby! You are stronger than you think.  You can make the right choice.  The choice that you will be able to live with now and for years to come.  Do not rush into this.  Take your time and really think about it.  It is a huge decision to make!

My husband and I are looking to adopt, but that is not why I have written this to you.  I could tell by your message that you are very confused and scared. If you would like to talk please feel free to e-mail me.  I would be happy to talk more with you, encourage you or just pray for you.  Our e-mail address is [e-mail]

I will be praying for you and your baby.  God Bless You!

Answer 9

I can not understand how people can even think of aborting their baby...I have been married for 10 years and the only thing we still need is a little baby but we can not fall pregnant have spend thousand but still we dont have a little one...our next step it to adopt but with the new law that you can aport and no question ask makes it so difficult.  We are looking for a white baby but there is just no baby out there for us...June last year we got a mommy but a month before baby was due she pulled out...that was sad have every thing for the baby but no baby. Please if you are thinking of giving your baby up for adoption please contact [e-mail]
thank you

Answer 10

Hi i have twin boys and i was looking to put them up for adoption, there 8 months now, things have just gotten really hard and i cant afford to give them the care they deserve i love them to death but they deserve a better family.

Answer 11

hi hun well its your decision but i dont think abortion is the right choice. there is so many loving famlies like mine who cannot have babies and i would love to adopt and try to help you as much as possible. to get to know me a little better please contact me [e-mail] good luck and thanks

Answer 12

i would highly recommend abortion, i was always anti abortion, but im not anymore. I was in a situation where i was either going to get an abortion, keep the child or give her up. Well i can tell you giving her up i know would have damaged her emotionally and myself for life, You are in an early pregnancy and i think it would be best. I am against late term abortions but early abortions i think are fine and harmless. Do not keep a child you might later regret having, but also do not give the child up and torment yourself and the child for the rest of your lives with emotional problems. Abortion is the least emotionally damaging in my own opinoin, ive been there!

Answer 13

Hello...
We would love to adopt your baby and willing to work with you on however open you may want the adoption to be. So that you do not worry that your child will be in the most trustworthy hands.

Contact me at: [e-mail]

So that we may discuss this further at any time day or night.  Even if you just want to chat, we can do that too.

Also, wanted to let you know that we are both nurses ;)
So if you have any questions or concerns, I am only a text away...

Hope to hear from you soon.

Blessings,
Aurora

Answer 14

WE ARE LOOING TO ADOPTED PLEASE IF YOU WANT TO PUT YOUR CHILD UP FOR ADOPTED PLEASE E MAIL ME ASAP  I CAN HELP WE WANT TO ADOPTED A CHILD   [e-mail]

Answer 15

we would love to adopted we have tryed for 6 years please e mail me I would love to talk  to you [e-mail]  please e-mail me

Answer 16

we would love to adopted we have tryed for 6 years please e mail me I would love to talk  to you [e-mail]

Answer 17

WE WOULD LOVE TO ADOPTED A BABY   UP  TO 3 YEARS OLD  PLEASE

Answer 18

Hello, My name is Nicole, My husband Everett and i have been married for 8 years, We have a six year old son named TrA. We live in wonderful, peaceful Idaho falls Id. A great place to raise a family. We own and operate a business here so we are very stable. Our son is our life. We are unable to conceive another child and have been looking for the right situation for 3 years. We would love to talk with you, If we are the right family for you, We would be willing to come to you, our accomidate you here... please contact me at 208-522-7767 or [e-mail].. Hope to talk with you . Nicole Marie