Putting up with negativeness

Question

at times i feel like i'm surrounded by negative people.

i cant move out so i cant escape it

i already get griped at for hibernating in my room

any suggestion how to deal with this??

Answer 1

Do not make it ok to be by yourself. Go out and spend the most time possible outside of the house, even if its at the grocery store or just riding the bus. Be clear with the members of your house when they are being negative that their attitude is causing harm to you and if they care they will change ways.

Answer 2

It's negative to judge those surrounding you in this light. Ever think of that? I don't mean to be mean in the least, just stating the obvious.

Hiding out in your room will solve nothing and only make you look in an even worse light. I take it you are a teenager and have to live at home and those are who you are calling negative.

Judging others generally puts yourself in a negative mood. It's very easy, in teen years, to look upon others in a bad light from a superior place. Often if those people were able to find good releases and have their families listen to them, they would be able to release the bad from the day and be able to see the better light.

You say those around you are negative, but what do you do for them to enhance their mood? To enhance their lives? Do you make dinners so it takes the stress of it off of them? Do you do your chores without having to be told? Do you help clean the home that you are living in, even if it's not your mess?

Think to yourself how you could be making things worse for those you live with. How you might be making them feel even worse at the end of every night. Parents are simply human beings with feelings and emotions. But far more stress than student will have to face. You can't get fired from school and if you got kicked out somehow, you wouldn't lose the money needed to provide.. food, electric, gas, cable tv, water, a home to live in, an automobile to drive in. In fact, if you got kicked from school you'd probably put that on your parents shoulders to figure out as well.

Now, I can't imagine that you are a bad person in the least. But i am betting you are over thinking it all and thinking only in terms of yourself. It's part of the age thing that all go through. But one day we wake up and realize it's not about us as an individual and then we start to grow up and make changes in our lives that benefit all. The sooner

that happens, the better off that life will be.

Now, if your family simply can't find one nice thing to say about anything, lead by example. Instead of hiding out, make positive suggestions. Example. Oh man, did you see how ugly that person was? Your reply could go something like this. I didn't find them ugly and their eyes were actually very pretty. Leading by example in life goes much further than anything else.

If bills are a source of problems, maybe you could find things to cut back on. If you see lights on in a room with no one it in, turn them off.

Leading by example instead of judging will help you out greatly. When the weight of a home and bills are upon your shoulder you might find that fun and positive attitude going out the door at times too. And if the jkids are problematic, oh boy.. it's going to be way harder.

Good luck.  

Answer 3

As a counselor, I have experience in working on issues like this.  Sometimes, when you are in a situation where you have no control and no immediate way out, you have to drown out the negative.  Focus your mind on the positive, on what is good, on what you have control of, on what you are grateful for, on what is on its way to getting better.  Do things that you enjoy to help put you in a positive frame of mind.  Know and believe that you don't have to let their negativity rub off on you.  You can control whether or not that happens.  Take care and be well.

Answer 4

I to meet up with negative people. It's not easy being around them for long, but I guess they are people you love and can't change. They probably think you are a little on the ignorant side hibernating to your room . The only answer I can see is to talk to them about it. You sound quite wise. Hibernating to your room won't solve the problem because you will come across this negativeness when you come out. Do your best to stay positive in a negative situation and try to bring a laugh into the situation and just tell them you mainly live in a postive world

Answer 5

I feel your pain..I just try and block it out and be as cheerful as i can. For sure i try and not tell them my problems..Listen to some relaxing music and when they are really gripey make an excuse to leave the room...

Answer 6

You could also try using their negativity in your favor.  If they say something negative, realize that you are so much better than them, because you would focus on the positive.  Being surrounded by negativity can help you realize how optimistic and positive you are.  Let it help you.

Answer 7

make posi friends and spend time with them til the day you can escape it

Answer 8

My dad was always negative about most things, my cousin said he is positively negative. There are some good books out there to help you.

I dont know if you are religious at all but there are good answers to your questions in the bible.