Q: My child's pre-school is a coop pre-school. It's supposed to be very social, and warm place. However,

Question

the teacher is very dry. She has kind moments, but is mostly distant and can sound rude. My daughter is social and very gentle. When the teacher has told her one of this answers that sound strong and rude, she cries and it hurts. I want to take her out of school, but my husband thinks this is the real world and we should explain it to her, but let her experience it. I am not sure, I have spoken to the teacher, and I would write a book about her not so great answers. Basically, I have left my daughter here for most of this 2007-08 year because she is my only child, and i've listen to my husband opinion. However, I can cry every time I here her teacher treat the kids with one of these strong, rude, confrontational, unnecessary responses. The teacher has her favorites, the town superintendent's daughter is in her class and does no wrong. Meanwhile, another child talks using a very bad language, and she has mentioned to me she has nothing else to do. Is this Pre-school?or should I leave?

Answer 1

This might be preschool -but she is NOT a good preschool teacher -check around, there has to be a warm, caring environment for your child.  Preschool is supposed to be the first POSITIVE step towards your child's school career - this is not starting her out on the right foot. I wish you would have written sooner so we could have advised you to look elsewhere. A good preschool teacher smiles and is patient and kind.  I'm sorry your daughter has had to endure an experience like this - I totally and completely disagree with your husband.  I own a preschool and I would not tolerate this kind of treatment of young children here.

Answer 2

GO to a different preschool. Preschoolers shouldn't be yelled at they are just kids. But before you choose your nex Preschool preview it. I hope you take her to a different school don't listen to your husband just do what you have to do.

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Answer 3

Your daughter is coming up soft. Keep her there.

Answer 4

first, i would speak with the program director and allow her to try to remedy the situation.  she can't fix a problem if she isn't aware it exists.  it might be that you, the teacher and the director need to sit down and have a discussion.  but if the situation continues after that i'd consider other options as

you are the best judge of what is best for your child.  if you have a bad feeling about this school, and your child doesn't like it, then move her.  i would wait until the end of the school year though as transitions are usually easier when there is a clear end or finish.  but if she will have a different teacher next term, you might consider staying if you like her.

i do agree that children have to learn to work with all types of people (just as adults do).  but harshness has no place in early education.

Answer 5

When kids come home from school crying, it should be cause another kid insulted her. NOT because the teacher was rude. Other kids should be the ones to introduce her to the harsh world, not the person whos supposed to be taking care of her.

If she has a sensitive attitude and if shes treated like that, she is going to shut down and start hiding her feelings.

Answer 6

find a better pre-school

i'm sure there are many others around

Answer 7

You should leave and go to a different school.

Answer 8

Since you have spoken to the teacher in question and have had no joy, is it possible to go above her, does she have a boss?  Is the pre-school attached to a school (mine was) if so it will be ruled completely by the head teacher, could you speak to her,  All else fails you could speak to the education dept. (again all our nursery schools here are governed by them - I presume you are in the US, so it may be different)  If you cant speak to anyone above her, then I personally would remove my child from the school and let everyone know exactly why I am doing so.

Answer 9

Teacher-child interactions are extremely important. Take her out and find a school that understands children and their developmental needs.

Answer 10

i get what your husband says when he told you its the real world but still. i have worked in daycares before and they are not suppose to talk to the kids like that. i think you should keep your child in the daycare until you can put her some where else.

Answer 11

I guess this comes down to a personal decision.  I've found myself in a similar situation this year but thank goodness it's not because of how the children are treated.  I'm just not impressed with the program in general.  Teacher/child relationship does effect a child's understanding of what schooling is all about.  I'm glad to hear you have talked with the teacher and I agree about going above her.  (However in my situation there isn't much that will be done...I've included the princpal in the school and he made it clear to me that the program was NOT his!)   Make sure you document everything.  This is the end of the school year for us...is it for you?  Discussing it with your child may be the best route right now ...if you only have another month to go.  However, if she is attending the next year....find somewhere else to take her.  This is a very sad situation!  Good luck!