Q for Men, when an attractive woman shows the attitude like "you are my buddy"?

Question

rather than the typical girly attitude like "oh you're a man im a woman'.

and she's very sociable, and has a great personality. Isn't it kind of turn-off? I mean, men like women to be a little different from their guy friends, don't they?

All she wants from you is to be friend together.

Answer 1

no. whenever i'm in that position, the guys will still fall for me no matter what. either they'll want to be my bf, or just keep that feelings in- these 2 things will surely ruin our friendship as I won't talk to them anymore. this is also why some of them prefer to just pursue on the friendship while imagining myself as their companion. that's better than not to have me around, eh? still, i find it betraying and hypocrite.

however, life's soooo good since i've stopped being friends with guys. though at first it was a kinda pain in the a* as it makes me feel like i'm a loser who's shy (scared,actually) of guys, but in the end it went otherwise. those were just my stupid thoughts. not being friends with guys doesn't really mean that you're "passively shy" of them, it'd just be becoz you're cool enough that you don't need to befriend them to testify it as you also don't look up upon them. that depends on your inner toughness, whether you do really have the 'fears and fantasies' towards them or not, which takes a resistance build for that purpose.

the best thing i ever get to discover from this is, you don't actually have to 'be their buddy' in order for them to find you a turnoff. in fact, a gentle "buddy" make them love it more and they'll still differentiate you no matter what. thanks to your personality.

just don't fancy much girlie fantasies, and be tougher (it takes effort, you can't fake it). that'll make you stronger and cooler. by right, that's what can actually make guys to respect you in a 'buddy' way though you aren't their friend. it's actually all on yourself.

Answer 2

Sorry ladies, Men don't want friends, They want s*x. If I want a new friend, I'll get a dog.

Answer 3

All the men I have been friends with have fell in love with me.

It's impossible for a man to be friends with a woman unless he's not at all sexually attracted to her.

And if he's not attracted to her I doubt he really cares about being her friend anyway. Most men do not care to have women friends and I doubt most men see women as friendship material.

Answer 4

That is the ultimate turn off and insult to be used as just a friend, instead of being used as a s*x partner. If she don't want to run naked in the moonlight, I don't want to "buddy" up. Always naked moonlight runs in mind, always.

Answer 5

In my experience, guys prefer girls they feel comfortable with. Most of the relationships in my high school started as close friendships.

Answer 6

sweetie... evry guy i thot wanted to be my frend it turned out was trying to get in my pants.... unless he was g*y... u got to remember... s*x is ALL guys EVER think bout.... its all there after... they never want to be jus ur frend...

Answer 7

That's exactly how I act around men actually. In fact I have a lot more male friends than female friends. I hate to be treated different because of my gender.

Answer 8

It really depends on the guy's personality and the girl's personality too.

Personally, girls that act like buds or dudes with me, is more of a friend than a potential gf...BUT, this is not a rule, depending on her personality, she might still be considered as a gf and if i found out that she likes me, no discrimination would come from her dude attitude.

There are not "rules", a normal guy may find it attractive for a girl to be sociable(it's an example), but i USUALLY don't.

Answer 9

Attractive women are my buddies yes.

Answer 10

There was a time in my life when every woman I found attractive seemed to view me like their favorite brother.  It was a bit disheartening, for sure.  But you can't really have too many friends and having a lot of "big sister" taught me a few things about women.  Now my partner is my best friend for life and I wouldn't have it any other way.  You can definitely have the best of both worlds.

Answer 11

My best friend is a girl but I'm not attracted to her.

If I was attracted to her it wouldn't be a good friendship.

I wouldn't be friends with a girl who I was attracted to.

If a girl is WAY too good looking, then I wouldn't even go out with her if she asked me too. There's just TOO much baggage with girls who think they're god's gift to the planet, and also if a girl is too good looking, then she can make you look like garbage by comparison. That's why it's best to go for girls who are in your league, or at the most slightly out of your league.