QUESTION PLEASE tell me ur thought?

Question

do you think if people are treated badly in a past relationship they will do it to a next love because they find it acceptable to treat a person the way there ex treated them

Answer 1

i think it depends on the person and if u know how it feels y would u want to inflict that on someone else?

Answer 2

Depends on the person.

Realizing and knowing the behavior is unacceptable may make them more aware NOT to repeat it.

Feeling hurt may result in hurting other to make them feel your pain. Kind of a 'misery loves company' idea.

Answer 3

hmm  some will some wont.  

i didnt exactly like how my parents treated me as a child...i certainly made a note to not do the same to my kids.   i suppose most people go about hoping for a fresh start in a relationship.  one would think so anyway.  but then there are those who will repeat bad habits and or pick up bad habits from an old relationship.  would be interesting to find two fingerprints exactly alike.

Answer 4

Not at all! Actually, I think it works completely the other way around... I think that if someone was mistreated in the past, be it in childhood or in a recent love relationship, AND THAT PERSON LOVES his/her current love partner, then he will NOT want to hurt him/her.

Answer 5

well they don't find it acceptable more like revenge

what ever happened in the previous relation they kind of take it out on the new gf/bf  

Answer 6

People change all the time. The person who is a *** hole needs some  to stand up to them and they won't ever treat that person or any peron like that again.  

Answer 7

i think nobody has the right to treat anybody badley !

Answer 8

until someone realizes there gonna be alone unless they change, they will probably keep doing it.

Answer 9

Not everyone will treat others the same way they were mistreated. If the person is not mature enough he will try to seek some kind of revenge. If the person is smart, he will end the relationship as soon as possible.

Answer 10

I hate to admit it but YES. I was in a bad abusive relationship in my past and thought it was ok cuz he loved me until i finally woke up and seen the truth of it all. And now no matter what i do I cant stop treating my current bf the same way. I dont mean to be mean to him, but i catch myself doing it and he tells me i am also. i know it is affecting our relationship. So the answer to your question is YES.

Answer 11

I'm a bit confused by the wording of your question, but I think you're asking if someone who is treated badly by one person might go on to treat someone else equally badly. A sort of revenge on an innocent person thing: a guy gets hurt by Girl A, then gets involved with Girl B and hurts her in the same way.

I think this does happen, but it's not inevitable.

Often people get knocked completely off-balance by a relationship that goes badly and ends messily, but it would be a pretty screwed up person who deliberately set out to hurt someone else in the same way they just were. However, working out what went wrong in a relationship and why can result in some weird sub-conscious stuff going on, so it's possible that what happens in one relationship can be mirrored in the following one.

But, as I said, I don't think this is inevitable. Part of gaining emotional maturity is understanding why we did the things we did in the past. If you understand why you acted as you did in an earlier relationship and your role in its ending, then you have a better chance of not repeating those mistakes.

I don't believe, as your question implies, that people learn how to treat other people in relationships by being in romantic relationships. I think those lessons are mostly learned much earlier in life when we watch our parents and other adults in our lives interact with each other. That is not to say, of course, that we can't recognize later in life that the rules those adults played by were destructive and harmful and go on to behave in much more positive ways in our own relationships, but some people take a very long time to learn this lesson. Some never do.

If someone is dealing with others in romantic relationships in a hurtful or harmful way, it seems to me much more likely that this is because they had poor role models early in life. If that is the case and if they have not learned the lessons they need to, then it's entirely possible for people to treat a succession of lovers in a very negative way.