Quest. for people who didn't have a loving home?

Question

this is a question only for those who can relate; how did you (do you) deal with it; i think that can be like the most painful thing, parents are supposed to love you unconditionally and then you see people with all these wonderful parents, how do you accept that and not feel depressed or something. share your thoughts; thanx

Answer 1

My father physically and verbally abused me from the time I was about 13 until I moved out at 18.  To this day, he's still verbally abusive (I'm now 25).  There's not anything I specifically do to deal with it.  I just accept the fact that my father's an a*****e and that there's nothing I can do to change it.  I just knew deep down that none of it was my fault.  I surrounded myself with people who were loving and caring and true friends.  I avoid interaction with him as much as possible and make my visits short.  The longer I'm around him, the more inappropriate remarks he starts to make.  I did attend church as a teenager, so I found comfort in my church family sense I didn't get it at home.  Now that I'm an adult, my mother has become my best friend and I know that I can go to her for anything.  She's often the voice of reason when I'm feeling overwhelmed by my father.

Answer 2

Love begins at home and is where your heart should be,try to become more involved in activities as a  family.If you are away from your immediate family,adopt a loving family.

Answer 3

I got away and avoided my abusive mother and my abusive siblings moved away and have their own lives.  In their absence I have forgotten the past and have moved on.  I forgive them, but we cannot relate.

Answer 4

well i think you have to accept it and take it as that.

i mean everytime i see my big sister now we always just laugh about our childhood how our mum used to hit us until we cried and twisted things like that.but as we got older we got used to it and relised she wasnt well.

Answer 5

I have a Couple of MUCH LOVED Contacts that can identify with this , so I am **Starring* your question in hopes they will answer and will release some of these Deep Hurts...My LOVE To ALL of YOU!!!~~Aloha and Many Blessings~~Michelle~~

Answer 6

I grew up with an alcoholic father. It was very hard, as a kid growing up and your dad is never there for you because he's busy getting drunk, and when he was there he was extremely abusive with words. He never layed a hand on me but I still hear all those harsh words he has spoken to me and still believe them sometimes. I was depressed about this for the longest time and thus becoming addicted to drugs to cope with my depression. My dad still drinks occasionally but I make sure to avoid if all possible. Me on the other hand now a days am doing just fine. I just try and find the positive things in all situations, concentrate on those and making the most of my life and forgetting the past. I am overall a very happy bubbly person 8-)

Answer 7

I grew up with a mom who treated my friends better then she treated me, my friends and I laugh about it now, but at the time it hurt a lot.  I just powered through it and moved out of state the first chance I got and haven't looked back since