Question, do you guys think adoption is wrong?

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Question, do you guys think adoption is wrong?

Answer 1

No i do not think it is wrong. Me and my husband are doing the adoption thing right now.

Answer 2

It's definitely not wrong! So many people abandon their babies or get them taken away and they need homes to. I think it's wonderful and I really hope you'll look into it!

Answer 3

Wrong? I think its wondeful!!! There are so many children out there who need a good family and home. I personally want to adopt an orphan from russia one day!

Answer 4

No, I don't think it's wrong. I think it's a great thing for people to make more room in their families for children who don't have their own.

Answer 5

no not at all i thinks its a great thing for parents who cant take care of there children and a great oppertunity for people that cant have babys that want a family!

Answer 6

Adoption, or relinquishment?

Necessary adoption, or unnecessary adoption?

Necessary relinquishment, or unnecessary relinquishment?

Your question is way too broad.

My answer is: it depends on the situation.

Answer 7

Why the h**l would it be wrong? People go on to say child best interests and all that, but adoption is better for the child in certain circumstances. Of course it is not wrong. Too many people on here live in cloud coo coo land, and think adoptees shouldnt be taken away from birth mothers etc. But what if that child's mother was in a bad place in her life? Would they want the same thing then? Adoption is fine

Answer 8

no adoption isn't wrong. what is wrong is people sterotyping birth motheres as bad evil people, adoptive parents as greedy evil people, that adoptees who have emotional issues regarding their adoption are weird. That is what is wrong.

Answer 9

Not at it's best.  At its worst it can be very wrong.

At its worst individuals are exploited. Birth mothers can be taken advantage of by those who profit off of their babies, adopted parents  are scammed, and the adoptees are treated like commodities.  This is adoption at its saddest where nobody wins.  In these cases it is a nightmare.

At its best, adoption is a lifeline and a second chance for a child born into a crisis or abandoned.  In the best circumstance,  a birth mothers has the wisdom to know what she cannot do( though she may want to), and adoptive parents have insight to honor the special circumstances of the child's birth....and BOTH come together to work on behalf of the child's best  interest.  In some cases it can be a blessing.

Adoption is complicated.

Answer 10

As an adoptive parent, I absolutely believe adoption is a wonderful thing.

Because brave young women chose to endure pregnancies and give their unborn babies life, I have children to love for life. What a gift!

What could be wrong with something so selfless?

Here's a link to an online item that might encourage you. Look under SOURCES.

(The words are copyrighted, but you are welcome to forward the http link to others, if you wish.)

Answer 11

If children need a home then no its not wrong.  If parents make a choice for adoption it is not wrong.  It is hard for birth/bio/first parents, but inevitably they make a choice for what is best for the child and/or their life.  

If children are being stolen to meet the needs of people desiring the "healthy white infant" then that is wrong.  (obviously)

Answer 12

Not at all. I think it's very honorable. My wife if adopted. It all depends on your family if you should. Each person is different.

Answer 13

In some situations, yes.  In some situations, no.

Adoption is necessary in some circumstances but it is always a sad-option rooted in loss

The way Infant adoption is practiced in the United States is wrong though - they need to take a long hard look at the way other countries practice adoption more ethically and it's about time they ratified the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child!

Answer 14

If adoption were really about the best interests of the child--if it were really about "saving a life"--I'd support it one hundred per cent.  But it is about the wants of the adoptive parents.  Why does money change hands when new members are added to families?  Why do some people think they have a right to be in the delivery room when someone else's baby is born?  Why aren't more kids being adopted out of foster care and into the stable family environments they so desperately need?  Why are the fees to adopt non-white infants lower than for white infants?

Adoption gave me a beloved family and made me who I am today.  But it is in serious need of reform.

Answer 15

Not at all! I thing it is a wonderful alternative for couples who want a child and cant conceive one on there own!

I think a mother who hands over there child knowing it will have a better life, is the most coragous thing ever!

Answer 16

it is good..bc you are savin someones life and takin care of them!!! ASAP

Answer 17

My wife and I are in the process of adopting a little girl and we don't feel "honorable" or "humanitarian" about adopting her.  We are not adopting to "save" a child, but because we want another child to love.  We already have two beautiful biological children, but we feel we can love another child and we want a girl, so adopting is a more "guaranteed" idea for us.

In a perfect world, everyone that gets pregnant would be able to raise and love their child, but we are far far from Utopia.  Therefore, in our real world, there are children with no parents.  I think in our real world, it's better and much harder for a birth mother to give up their child for a better life, than to try to keep and raise the child in a broken home.

If adoption is wrong, then what do we do with all the children that we have now with no homes?

Answer 18

Adopting older children or children who have been taken into the care system due to abuse or neglect can only be right, surely.  Better these children be adopted than languish in children's homes or foster care thinking that no one loves them.

As for the American system of adoption of newborns, that is plain wrong.  Too many people making money out of vulnerable people.  If mothers really can't cope after being offered plenty of help (as happens in the UK and Australia) then the baby should be taken into the system via non profit making government agencies.

Answer 19

Adoption is "wonderful" for the adoptive parents... For the adoptee it is not always candy and rainbows...  If a child can stay with its natural mother it should... The child that mother carrys is the closest thing she will ever have...  The child knows the beats of her heart, the sound of her blood flowing, and was rocked to sleep and kept warm by her body for 40 weeks... That mother deserves more credit then she usually gets.

Answer 20

Definitely not!  My husband and I have three children who joined our family through adoption and I can't imagine not having them in my life!  They are my children and I am their mother.  Period.

Answer 21

In general, yes.  

Maybe it would be better to say that I think adoption is bad?  Or tragic?

I do acknowledge that, in this imperfect world, it may sometimes be necessary.  But it always involves a loss, a separation of child from its mother.  If that separation is necessary, then whatever makes it necessary is obviously tragic for the child.  If the separation isn't necessary, then the separation itself is tragic.  

It might be unavoidable at times, but it's never good, in and of itself.

Answer 22

Adoption itself is not wrong.  It is the processes that seem to embrace manipulation, greed, selfishness and the selling of 'goods' (oops, I mean a child) that is wrong.

The fact that there are children, in need of a good permanent home & upbringing are being denied a decent future, simply because they are too old says something about some of the people that 'want' to adopt.  It is not to say that they are 'bad' people & that they should not help any child but those that adopt with a specific criteria in mind are adopting to fill their own void, for self...not for the child.  Is that to state that they won't grow to love that child, of course not but is possible.

There were times I hated my family & wondered why out of all the families I got stuck with mine...but I think that's life in general & have come to appreciate the 'better' life.

Answer 23

I think the way adoption is practiced now and in the past is wrong.  It treats those living adoption like they are incompetent.

Answer 24

How could a mother making a life long, responsible and loving plan for her child be wrong???