Question about 6 years old daughter's behaviour?

Question

she is in 1st grade and very smart. i never got any complain from her teachers. since birth she was very hyper and active. she is having trouble doing her homework,geting ready for school, and going to bed. it seems like she is always want to play and do not want to work. in school is diffrent story we get gor report card and learning fine in school. she can do her homework quickly if she just pay attention. it seem like she has ADD but we do not want to give medication so we never ask dr. if she has problem or not. now we had a new baby and can not always help her doing stuff. when she does not do what i say to do i start yelling at her because i admit i also do not very good control myself. i really donot want to yell but i do it. i need help how to control her?i know she is not mis behaving she is always doing something and do not want to work. how to makr her understand without yelling at her?

thanks in advance.

Answer 1

n ask her if there is somthing wrong at home or school but she might have adhd its like add but it also makes you hyper

Answer 2

Have her tested for ADD/ADHD. She probably has it. Or, enroll in extra curricular activities.

Answer 3

You should still let the doctor check her over, you don't HAVE to give her medication if they prescribe it.

Answer 4

she needs a constant every day set time for homework my son was the same way we started coming home from school we sit and talk about our day and have a snack together then its time for homework some times we sit on the back porch in the fresh air.be consistent about bed time and give her at least three choices that you have chosen for getting ready for school.maybe have a race brushing your teeth together,combing your hair and make a game out of everything.

Answer 5

She might be bored. See if her teachers would be willing to test her for gifted/gate.

Kids that are bored act out. My mother is having a similar problem with my sister.

Answer 6

It doesn't sound like she has ADD or ADHD to me, she just sounds like a normally active easily distracted six year old.  First of all you have to provide the proper place to do homework.  Quiet, well lit, no television in the background, a desk and proper seating.  Secondly if you don't WANT to yell at her then don't.  Learn how to set rules and to discipline.  If my kids want to watch television or play video games or have time on the computer they have to follow the rules one of the rules is to complete their homework.  They each get an hour a day with television or video games or the computer that they have to EARN, if they don't follow the rules they don't earn their hour.  I don't yell, I don't argue and I don't negotiate.

Answer 7

You should try making her run in place before she does homework, or get her into some sort of sport like gymnastics or soccer.... then she will be tired before she does things and is more focused.

Answer 8

I have a 6yr old daughter, she is the same way. Her Dr told us to also limit the amounts of natural sugars- Fruits and condiments contain these sugars- especially like ketchup..we have set times for everything and it has really worked..but cutting out alot of those foods helped too. We give her fruit in the am for energy for school, and then by evening she's good.

Good Luck..and I feel the same way about meds..

Answer 9

my little sister is 6 and does the same exact thing....Is she jealous of the baby? maybe,if she is jealous of the baby,maybe she is actin out to get more attention...

Answer 10

Six year olds are SUPPOSED to play.  That being said, it's entirely possible your daughter has AD/HD.  You won't know if you don't talk to either the school for an educational assessment or her doctor.

If she does have AD/HD and you are absolutely set against medication, try the concepts in 1-2-3 Magic or Love and Logic.  (search those) I understand your reluctance to medicate a six year old, but if she truly has AD/HD, you should leave that option open in your mind.  AD/HD is caused by neurological brain differences, mostly related to a brain chemical called dopamine.  Dopamine effects lots or life functions; in the case of AD/HD, the functions are mainly cognitive (thinking) skills.  Low dopamine in other regions of the brain causes Parkinson's Disease, which effects motor (body) functions.  Most people aren't opposed to someone like Michael J. Fox using L-Dopa to help control the trembling associated with Parkinson's.

Lots of information is available all over the internet.  Check out the following site for information on medications, non-medication treatments, behavior modification, coping skills for you, etc.

Answer 11

this is any easy one mine child is the same way good at schhol and different at home. as bad as i hate to tell u this but ur child does have add or adhd. just found that out myself. i know u dont want to give meds and thats ur right but i was the same way cause i didnt want anyone saying anything didnt want to depend on meds that was until she hit 3rd grade and her grades started hitting d-f then i decided to do something about it now she takes a pill in the morning and it does help her school work is better also. and i also realize that i dont have to yell that much either, im not trying to tell u how to raise ur child cause thats not my place but i do hope u talk to ur dr and get ur baby the help shes needs i think inthe long run u will be glad u did...........good luck

Answer 12

I know some people are all against medication, and that. I had add as a child and a pill at breakfast really helped. I would try limiting sugar intake. ( give her sugar free puding, and other foods that she likes) Also try giving her step by step instructions/ make a chart/ routine. Also try calming activities like yoga to try and help her calm down. Or what my parents did take me to the park and wear me out running around till i almost couldn't walk home.

Answer 13

Honestly, this sounds like normal 6 year old behavior to me.

My daughter does the same EXACT thing. Try getting someone else to help her with her homework after school. Explain to her that its very important that she do her homework and give reasons why.

I discussed with my daughters teacher that if she doesnt complete her homework she is to sit out at recess and finish it. OR if she blatantly does it wrong (like just writes whatever, instead of reading directions and doing it right) she will have to do it over at recess.

So far we've had success.

good luck to you